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Exactly. I guess most women now-a-days feel the need to stamp their authority over men, which actually doesn't equate to equality. I have this friend who is so stubborn about her surname, she keeps telling me that her surname is her identity and she does not want to lose her identity. The funny thing is that she keeps saying she'll give up everything to find that perfect guy and when I asked her if she would give up her surname too she said NO. When I told her there's nothing in a name, she suggested that I change my surname to my wife's surname in the future because there's nothing in a name to me.Habitual Perfectionist wrote:The only reason I feel why ladies are stubborn at times on this issue could be a subconscious urge to challenge the patriarchal social setup.
Is it really tough to change a name legally? What is the process and how long does it take?solosynergy wrote:hell no i don want my wife to change her name or me change names. i have a government office phobia and i do not want to do anything of the sorts of changing namem. boy the dinghy govt offices are not worth it.
Lucifer wrote:Actually, I really do not have any issues with my wife retaining her name. I have no issues if she wants to give her surname to our kids.
Igiveadamn wrote:Is it really tough to change a name legally? What is the process and how long does it take?solosynergy wrote:hell no i don want my wife to change her name or me change names. i have a government office phobia and i do not want to do anything of the sorts of changing namem. boy the dinghy govt offices are not worth it.
Lucifer wrote: I have no issues if she wants to give her surname to our kids.
There was this friend of mine who wanted to change his name when in college and he was talking about getting a lawyer and a paper ad. Can anyone enlighten?solosynergy wrote:i really dont know how difficult it is to get a name change but then entering a government office means a minimum of a whole day lost if u have all the necessary documents and if not u can come back the next day. and hell y change names.i really dont think it should matter.
So there's still hope in this world. God bless.daisy wrote:interesting topic
personally, i dont have a problem changing my lastname. no big deal.
Habitual Perfectionist wrote:Don't know if this has been discussed before or not...but I have something to say on this one.
What I feel about this subject is that a couple should have a common lastname. A husband and wife going by two different lastnames would show a complete social disconnect between the two, which is not a very healthy sign. Goes to show that both of them are extremely individualistic in nature and are not ready to compromise.
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Teaser wrote:Agreed....but if its jus matter of having one common surname...then why not a husband takes up his wife surname.
Hey girls , jus tell me what sense it makes to carry ur maiden name and ur husbands family all together ..
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Igiveadamn wrote:Why women should have their husband's family name and not the other way round.
Consider a scenario where two people, a guy and a girl, have met. The boy's father and the girl's mother are siblings and in the same way the boy's mother and the girl's father are siblings. The girl's father had no problem taking his wife's family name say 'XYZ' when she insisted upon it. Now the boy's father followed tradition and he shares his surname 'XYZ' with his wife. As a result, It turns out that both the boy and the girl share the same family name 'XYZ'. As we all know, among telugus, these cousins can marry. But technically speaking they are brother and sister going by their family name. To avoid this kind of a dilema women should take their men's family name(because statistically these type of conflicts can be avoided if women change their names).
So am I officially a male chauvinist pig now?
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