Girls read it...MY irritating wife....

[Wheel chair guy]

I am a manager in IT firm, academically excelled, well traveled in Europe and America. I got married and Have a 1 year old son too. My marriage life is really happy for first 2 years. I don’t say I am Perfect guy but I can assure you, I am any average guy like you.

Never had any problem with any one in my life except with my wife. I never had any problem with anything except her nagging; complaining and advising . Recently she started advising too much…initially it was one or two suggestions per day. Now it has become 5 to 6 suggestions / hour ..How should I dress, How to eat , how to talk …apart from That she gets irritated for small things for spilled milk, water on floor. I would have divorced her if we did not have a child. So many things like sentiment, emotions, our son future. I used to be known as a calm guy in the company. Recently my peers and Superiors noticed me that I got changed calm person to angry man. It has become like oral war in our house. I never used physical force to control her..





Finally the worst thing happened…I was driving from Bangalore to Ooty on May 28th, my wife started advising. ..How smoothly I should drive and keep on talking about my driving, every thing like breaking , turning, accelerating, I got so much irritated…the more I got irritated, the drive got worse..She keep on talking…I literally lost my Control , steered off road and hit a big tree.. My Legs hurt so badly.. Doctors said I have to be on Wheel chair for 6 months…I can not even walk on crutches…I don’t know when I will walk again. Luckily my son did not get hurt; he was buckled in seat belt. My nightmare wife got big scar in her chin and had a broken arm... I was forced to take 6 months unpaid leave of absence.





Worst of all she keep on talking about my driving skills with hospital nurse, doctors, near by patients , I have been driving since I was 18, Never had accident in my life. I am taking a divorce …other wise .if not today may be some day we may die in accident.



Women please don’t nag and complain too much….yours sincerely



Wheel chaired husband.

[Habitual Perfectionist]

Dude...whoever you are...don't you think its unfair on your wife if you're making your marital life open to so many ppl?





As for wives nagging, damn...its their birthright. Try and enjoy the nags. I usually do.

[Alexis]

Thankfully, I dont nag. My husband and I share a great rapport. We're not perfect and definitely make tons of mistakes. But its called using tact. You can tactfully change the way your spouse does a certain thing without being rude and irritating.



Wheel Chair Guy, Im sorry about your accident. No one is perfect, and no marriage is perfect either. Divorce is a very big step, and I hope you try to work things out before calling it quits.



Try counseling maybe. Or have a heart-to-heart talk with your wife. Tell her that you cant stand her nagging ways. And that you want to end the relationship becauseof it.



Whatever the outcome may be, I wish you and your wife a speedy recovery and all luck for a blissful future.

[Reply]

Every one in the hospital knows... Well it hit the small news papers too



Hell..I am ashamed of reading headings and contents...Now i know how far the contents are true in news papers...

[CtrlAltDel]

Wheelie, dont u think u r over reacting when u want to go for a divorce coz yr wife nags....sheeeesh...wifes always nag (maybe Alexis is an exception, but i am sure she slips into the nag mode now n then ). the world wud be full of divorcees if men reacted this way...

and kabhi socha hai...what later? if u remarry, bet my ass, the second wife wud also nag u....what wud u do then? a second divorce? u'll end up paying yr entire income as alimony to various ex-wives.

have a hard talk with yr wife. have a shouting match if required. convey in harshest terms what u think of her nagging. if all these still fail....do whatever u like.

but one thing: marriage is not for u, my friend dont go for a second marrige if u divorce her.

[Alexis]

Andy, youre wrong. I NEVER nag. And in december, you can ask him yourself.



Me and my better half are more like best friends than husband and wife. Friends with benefits, that is!

[Habitual Perfectionist]

Andy, youre wrong. I NEVER nag. And in december, you can ask him yourself.

CHOR KI DAADHI MEIN TINKA???

[Alexis]

Andy, youre wrong. I NEVER nag. And in december, you can ask him yourself.

CHOR KI DAADHI MEIN TINKA???

Umm, whats the mean HP?

[CtrlAltDel]

Andy, youre wrong. I NEVER nag.

good for u...n yr husband!

Me and my better half are more like best friends than husband and wife.

thats nice to hear. my wife n I are more like friends too....infact when we go out, no one can guess we r married! i've even seen situations where i see other guys hitting on my wife, thinking she is single

Friends with benefits, that is!

;)

[wheel chair guy]

CTRL+ALT+DEL....Your suggestion sounnds good...you can not belive

they are two things happening right at this moment..early morning



1) my wife saying some thing about my bandage..when should i get

change.. for last 15 minutess..and suggesting how should i get work from

option and helped me to get coffee from kitchen thats nice...



2) There is a on my face...I don't know its perfect smile out of

frustration or Am i nearing to become MAD...





3) Any how I am preaparing for all out oral war....and there is love for her ..its never ending story ...So no divorce for her...



just like any other wife and Husband story....

[Habitual Perfectionist]

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[Adonis]

i am sorry about ur accident man !!!...



well CAD and Alexis already told what i was thinking !!!!>..



keeping things botteled up inside u is not good. ..so i f ur wife is getting on ur nerves ..then just tell her .....

[Alexis]

Yeah Adonis, communication is the key to a good relationship. Bottling up your true feelings is of no use to you or the other party.



Adonis, how old are you?

[asli_badmash]

1. I dont think shouting match is the answer..



2. Women dont nag.. its Men who think they NAG.



What Men call Nag is womens desparate attempt at reaching them after everything has failed. All you have to do is VALIDATE.



If she nags that something is wrong with you. Say YES, I need to work on it. Ask her for some suggestions. She will not only feel valued, she will feel like she has been heard. Matter resolved. And take what she says seriously, she is married to you GOD Damn it. She is your BETTER Half. She has a right to NAG.



Also, by constantly telling you to improve on things she is letting you how much she loves you. So please look beyond the obvious things and try to understand the WHY?



She loves you.. you are her Life's project. What do you do when you love something you try to improve it. For example, Imagine you bought a Nice car. Dont you NAG the Mechanic to make sure that your car needs to be in tip-top shape.



Also when she complains or NAGS dont think of it as something wrong with you. Just think about it as her love for you. VALIDATE her and talk to her nicely. Thats all she needs from you.



Also, drive carefully with a KID in the car. There is no excuse to driving rash. What ever it is!



Divorce is not a solution; keep this one. She is awesome. The day she stops nagging she will stop loving you. Do you want that? Only because she loves you, does she NAG you. Let her do her JOB and enjoy it while it lasts!



~badmash~

[justforfun]

1. I dont think shouting match is the answer..

2. Women dont nag.. its Men who think they NAG.

What Men call Nag is womens desparate attempt at reaching them after everything has failed. All you have to do is VALIDATE.

If she nags that something is wrong with you. Say YES, I need to work on it. Ask her for some suggestions. She will not only feel valued, she will feel like she has been heard. Matter resolved. And take what she says seriously, she is married to you GOD Damn it. She is your BETTER Half. She has a right to NAG.

Also, by constantly telling you to improve on things she is letting you how much she loves you. So please look beyond the obvious things and try to understand the WHY?

She loves you.. you are her Life's project. What do you do when you love something you try to improve it. For example, Imagine you bought a Nice car. Dont you NAG the Mechanic to make sure that your car needs to be in tip-top shape.

Also when she complains or NAGS dont think of it as something wrong with you. Just think about it as her love for you. VALIDATE her and talk to her nicely. Thats all she needs from you.

Also, drive carefully with a KID in the car. There is no excuse to driving rash. What ever it is!

Divorce is not a solution; keep this one. She is awesome. The day she stops nagging she will stop loving you. Do you want that? Only because she loves you, does she NAG you. Let her do her JOB and enjoy it while it lasts!

~badmash~

perfect one i like that !!!! think mr wheel and hope everything will be fine ... just give some more time to urself and her ...all the best...think positive ....try to make her understand ur problem ...

[Adonis]

Yeah Adonis, communication is the key to a good relationship. Bottling up your true feelings is of no use to you or the other party.

Adonis, how old are you?

i am 22 .....and getting oldd !!!

[CtrlAltDel]

Women dont nag.. its Men who think they NAG.
What Men call Nag is womens desparate attempt at reaching them after everything has failed. ....If she nags that something is wrong with you....

not always bud....there r some areas where I DONT WANT to improve....and she shud respect that. i dont pester her on each n every small fault of hers...

Also, by constantly telling you to improve on things she is letting you how much she loves you.....She loves you.. you are her Life's project.

accepting us with all our faults is true love....i am lazy n laid back at home. ok she can nag me to do chores. i dont mind. but i am not good in keeping a properly arranged wardrobe with all properly folded or hung on hangers...if fact i dont care abt it...so i expect my wife not to pester me to do all that. i wont change after so many years. thanfully she is beginning to learn...

The day she stops nagging she will stop loving you.

good one that!



i hope my wife DOESN'T read yr post... she'll have one more arguement when i next request her NOT to advice me...

[akhilis2cool]

Andy, youre wrong. I NEVER nag. And in december, you can ask him yourself.

CHOR KI DAADHI MEIN TINKA???

Umm, whats the mean HP?

may i help may i help



ok here goes



thiefs beard has straw of grass

[ZC]

Posting anonymously in a Discussion Board.....whats it called?



atleast, ur wfe has the guts to do it in front of u

[asli_badmash]

not always bud....there r some areas where I DONT WANT to improve....and she shud respect that. i dont pester her on each n every small fault of hers...

Yes with time women learn... but how they get there is in your hands. They can either reach there with your help or give up on you and become frustrated.

i hope my wife DOESN'T read yr post... she'll have one more arguement when i next request her NOT to advice me...

I Hope she reads it. With your power of reasoning, it only would be fair for her to have her WMD(Weapons of Mass Destruction).

~badmash~

[Alexis]

Posting anonymously in a Discussion Board.....whats it called?

atleast, ur wfe has the guts to do it in front of u

Its unfair to say that. He was venting and I think he needed to let some steam off. I just hope now he can talk to his wife directly and tell her that their marriage needs work.

[Tappebaz]

Hi every1



wheelchair guy, keeping my self on a neutral thinking wanna give u a good suggestion.



just listen to all suggestions ur wife gives and last put all dump on her...... let me give u small example. like u were driving and ur wife was suggesting u... wht u could have done is u should have stop the car on one side and told her this " o my darling i am not perfect better u drive and i handle the child ". u must had give up the driving to her and then see wht had happened.



this was just one example try this trick always... hand over thing to her for performing perfectly lets see how perfect is she???



and dont ever think of divorcing ur wife. is duniya main wifes badi mushkil se mil rahi hai aaj kal. u will have to handle whole house as well as child and office all by urself.

[CtrlAltDel]

arre...tappebaaz...app itte dinaan ke baad dikhrain...??? kya hua bhai?

[Alexis]

Welcome back to FH, Tappebaaz.

Gotta give you props for your name.....its funny. What does it ,mean?

[Tappebaz]

Thankx for the back welcome,,,,, CtrlAltDel and Alexis.



but i had gonne no where i am just not posting in any topic these days c'oz i think there is no intresting topics running since so many days. people jst bluffing and passing there time here.



i request every1 to start at least 1 or 2 very intreasting or serious commedian board.



waise thats all for now