Do we really need marriage?

by **kishore** » Sun Mar 02, 2003 10:52 pm

hey guys,I find it hard to believe that so many of us madly believe in marriage even if many are not satisfied with their spouses. Do we really have to cope up with it? Why can\'t a man and a woman stay together without an arrangement like a marriage?

by **bachelor** » Mon Mar 03, 2003 10:46 am

there is a prob there.
she might leave you even though u wanna be with her.
if you are married she can\'t leave u that easily.
she has to give a second thought about leaving you.
if not married she can go around and see ne guy she likes.
else she will have fixed in her mind that u r the only person she has to live with and will not think of ne other guy unless u leave her.

by **wellwisher** » Mon Mar 03, 2003 8:19 pm

is this kishore reddy with these kind of thoughts. please keep ur mind cuuuuuuul. there\'s a lots of time to think about that.

by RP » Mon Mar 03, 2003 8:28 pm

It\'s a free world Kish. Do what you want to do, see what you want to seek, be what you want to be, and screw what you want to screw. Marriage is an institution the geriatrics swear by. May be their experience says something.

by **Hydi@NYC** » Mon Mar 03, 2003 8:41 pm

It\'s just a matter of time, not that it\'s any good for the society since it does not demand a \"commitment\" from you. But, like any other cultural thing (ex. dating, love marriage, divorce), we will get to accept it in the future. It\'s a common thing in the West to live together before getting married.

by **SEN** » Mon Mar 03, 2003 10:10 pm

Hey bachelor, I do not mind her being unfaithful since I do not think the idea of living together is entirely about sex. What I hope for is a companion who understands me, not one who is bonded to me by a meek concept called marriage.

by **Mickey** » Wed Mar 05, 2003 8:49 pm

Marriage is BULLSHIT if you marry the worng girl and I am talking from experience.

by **Mickey** » Wed Mar 05, 2003 8:50 pm

I meant the wrong girl - sorry for the typo.

by **ravi** » Wed Mar 05, 2003 10:08 pm

mickey, you are absolutely right. some girls with premarital relations still may be affectionate with their ex-boyfriends. then the idea of marriage becomes totally blown. In India nowadays MALESIN is increasing. the general society is responsible for this.

by M » Thu Mar 06, 2003 1:47 pm

Just imagine, if our parents were not married and they just lived together.

by **Neeraja** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 10:59 am

It shows your cheap attitude!!! Why can\'t it be the other way round? The girl marrying a wrong guy? You all think you guys are all so sincere??? How many of you have had extra-marital affairs, being unfaithful to your wife, and are blaming the gals only? If men can contain their urge, all women would be safe...

Please do not blurt out something which you do not know!

by **Neeraja** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 11:06 am

What do you know about marriage?? If your parents were not married properly, you would not have had the name kishore or the initial you are carrying now...
Wedding is a union of two families and hearts - it is a bond and commitment to form the society. Even Westerners whose feet you all fall flat on and lick have this tradition and bond very strongly. They too have a good culture and decent living... Dating etc. are very few and it happens only in movies and novels not in reality. Try to learn the art of living first. I am sure there would be lots of reaction to my views - youngsters, please wake up... don\'t fall prey to celluloid life please!!!

by **neeraja** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 11:10 am

Ravi, you could be one of the ex-boyfriends of someone\'s wife!! Why do you categorically blame someone? You first see if your back is clean and then you can preach about others... How many men flirt with gals even though they have a beautiful wife/children back home waiting for them to return from office/tour???

by **funnysideoflife** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 2:46 pm

Hi Kihsore, I too have the same sort of feeling towards the idea of marriage. Sometimes, I FEEL that parents spend a lot of money on the SO CALLED once in a lifetime affair. The concept of living without agreement is being followed for a longtime in US (MOSTLY) and other countries also. (Therefore, it also ranks #1 position in the world for the sexually transmitted disease.) But here I would like to point out that like the coin has 2 sides and each has its importance, likewise this concept also has quite a many advantages and MORE disadvantages. The advantages are like u always have a choice of staying together or not. The other disadvantage is as and when u change a partner there is a high possibility of sexually transmitted diseases reaching to its peak and beyond cure also (although v find QUITE A FEW CASES with the marriage system but this would be more if it was not there). A child born from such relationships would feel insecure mentally and dejected since there is no commitment from the father or mother. There care is vital for the growing years. They would turn out to be psychopaths. I don’t think that v want a world with psychopaths. Therefore, the elders and other members of the society have made a universal rule called “MARRIAGE.” ……. I would also like to emphasize that when constantly one tries to change partners then there is no difference between the some animals and us (INTELLIGENT BEINGS ON THE EARTH) proving the animal instinct stronger than the mental balance. Here when I mean some animals I mean that there are animals that are monogamous and committed. However, the decision is left to you to decide, either u get married or not, or wanna stay without any agreement and the world would accept it.

by **ravi** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 7:32 pm

Neeraja, I really apologise to you. You must be a good, respectable, family lady. But I won\'t apologise to many other ladies.

by **Mickey** » Fri Mar 07, 2003 8:56 pm

Hi Neeraja,

Not all women are so sincere and so true. We men are more straight and we do confess our faults, unlike women who need a CBI / FBI / Mossad enquiry to know what they have been up to. I am not saying every women are bad and every guy is good - No - but don\'t just generalise and say that if men are faithful, women will be sincere and there will be heaven at home... Oh, NO - blame women\'s liberation, feminism or anything else, but women are also into nonsense. This I am speaking from personal experience, and going through a bad marriage. I am not aiming for a divorce since I still do love my wife, even after the nonsense she does. So don\'t blame men in general.

by **Aadi** » Sat Mar 08, 2003 11:45 am

You marry someone with a thought of being with her/him for all your life. You may love someone with the same thought. But as it is said, love is never constant. When it does not increase, it decreases. This is where faith, trust and commitment plays the role. I think you get all these if you are married. Its simple, if you want to be with a woman without the thought of leaving her, then marry. If you doubt, that someday something might happen and you are afraid of marrying, it just means that you lack the basic quality needed for a relationship, TRUST. Its all in our hands. We need not blame someone else for what happened to us. You cant clap with a single hand.

by **Rahul** » Sat Mar 08, 2003 1:24 pm

\" By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you\'ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you\'ll become a philosopher... \"

- Socrates

by **kishore** » Sat Mar 08, 2003 1:45 pm

Hello friends (and Neeraja), I had this intriguing idea of marriage ever since I was 17 and still have it. I just wanted to know the opinions of it in the view of world today. But having seen it, I must say that this concept has been converted solely as a platform for sex and infidelity discussion. I must say that though they are bound to be a part and parcel of the discussion, I am also interested in feelings other than physical. If your companion (wife or husband) is not sharing the same feelings and ideas as you towards life (includes everything), do you really have to cope with it? Is it really essential that you make adjustments? Differences in opinion can occur both in arranged and love marriages. Tell me, do you feel the urge to live with her even then?

by **angel** » Sat Mar 08, 2003 2:14 pm

i perfectly agree with u

by **Rahul** » Sat Mar 08, 2003 4:15 pm

Hi Neeraja, Adi et al! Jokes apart, marriage is an institution that we all need. You might be dating some lovely hot female... She might be good enough to flaunt around; but you can\'t take her home, can you??? So much so for the male hypocrisy :-p. A wife is after all, a wife. Period. 

The purpose of marriage is to fulfil a need. Agreed, you might prefer staying in a live-in... but the point is, how long can you stick around with it? Some fine day, you\'ll just have this urge to quit. What next? another relationship...??? 

He! He! :-p And for all those \"eternally single\" souls, here are some notes on marriage... 
...Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. 
...Marriage is an institution, but who wants to live in an institution? 
...Marriage is bliss. Ignorance is bliss. 
...Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence. 
...Marriage is the only sport in which the trapped animal has to buy the license. 
...Marriage still confers one very special privilege, only a married person can get divorced! 
Flames, if any, are welcome!!

by **vrinda** » Mon Mar 10, 2003 2:08 pm

hey big bore..al you james bond who wanna debate this matter further..think if u have it in u to keep a girl interested in you forever...nope..i bet .

by **Shahed** » Mon Mar 10, 2003 2:50 pm

Marriage is important ...Marriage is NOT important ...Go by the majority and decide by yourself!Why such lengthy drama and accusations and involvement in others\' personal matters? In general nobody will get everything in life. So love, compromise, sacrifice, care... all these things lead to a happy married life. Marriage has more advantages and very few disadvantages (that can be solved), whereas staying without marriage leads to infinite problems. It is very true that you will find a combination of good and bad everywhere in the world, but the majority always wins. Ya, one more interesting thing... today staying together that is 1:1, tomorrow it may be 1:2 or 1:3 or 2:4 just imagine... how embarassing... whereas in married life (no extra marital affairs) the ratio is only 1:1, which is good for children and society. I wonder how they name the babies of unmarried couples... maybe in numbers(1,2,3,4)... from national index...

by **star** » Mon Mar 10, 2003 3:07 pm

If it weren\'t for marriage, men and women would have to fight with total strangers and the only war in which you sleep with the enemy.

by **Irwin** » Mon Mar 10, 2003 3:09 pm

Marriage is like a bank account. You put it in, you take it out, you lose interest.

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