hyderabadi culture

[hina]

I have been away from Hyd. for a long time.Reading the messages on this board I\'ve come to realise that Hyderabad and Hyderabadi\'s have changed a lot.Atleast the younger generation has become more westernised.The open discussions about sex before marriage and many other messages are proof of that.But with all these changes are we going for the better or the worst? I would like to find out about that from real hyderabadi\'s that are still in Hyd.I for one would still want to come back to the Hyd. that I left 19 yrs ago.

[Farhan]

No dought Hina Hyderabad changed a lot, before Hyderabad was famous for its Mehmaan Nawazi and Adaab but gradually these things are disappearing from the city the reason behind that is people are now running for money, nothing is greater than money near them. New generation hardly understand family values and respect towards elders. I too was away from Hyderabad since 10 years living in Toronto, two years back I visited Hyderabad but I have noticed a lot of changes over there.

[Easygoing]

I think a lot like you and would like to know you more. Please send me your email address at aufc24@hotmail.com
Thanks.

[khan]

Well miss Hina...who says hyd has changed. 52 years after police action i still find nawabs over here..people who look down upon those with relatively less amount. People who just do not believe in working hard, people who keep eating from what they get as rent from the properties built by their ancestors. In a nut shell hyd is very much a city of nawabs...people whom i think are good for nothing. Someone said it right...JAGIRDAR means BEKAR.
And hyd\'badi girls...olright they observe hijaab..but their attitute...well they do date even when they are observing hijab. They are more inclined towards those guys who either has a job abroad or is a wealthy nawab back home. They will just not take care of the elders of her hubby\'s family. they need shopping, jewelery, fashionable clothes etc. I have seen this by myself...and i am not at all happy about it.
Was hyd\'bad alwayz like this or it has become now..the question needs to be answered.
Your comments, critics and abuses are invited. Mail me at khan_sahib@indiatimes.com.
Khan

[khan]

What u call mehman nawazi is nothing but a way to flaunt one\'s wealth in hyderabad.

[hina]

Mr.Khan,what you have written is absolutely true,but that is what made Hyderabad differ from other places.Even abroad if one Hyderabadi meets another even though they are total strangers you have a different feeling for them.I\'ve had a very positive experience where a reputable doctor in US just by the mention of being from Hyd. helped a total stranger by taking custody of him from the court.That\'s a true Hyderabadi and a real human being.These qualities of helping each other and like Farhan has mentioned the Mehmaan Nawaazi is a typical Hyd. culture.There are always good and bad in every society so does Hyd. No other city can take the place of Hyderabad.I hope Hyderabadi\'s preserve their culture in future.

[Khanna]

Hijabs? ROTFLMAO....Why all hyd girls wear hijab? Are you outta your mind? Are you talking about PAki hyderabad.

[tarun]

hina, i can give you 100 instances where a hydi tries to avoid another hydi when he needs help, hyderabadis have become very rich thanks to their family members who r either in DUBAI or in USA.money keeps coming from them and there today you see that is everything available in an american store. this is true , i have been to hyd just a month back and was surprised at the speed with which it is getting westernized.they r concerned about only one thing , get money enjoy life as much as possible.its a hopeless city

[khan]

No mr khanna....i was very much talking about indian hyderabad - Hyderabad-Deccan. And as for Hijaab, well i was reffering to the muslim girls of hyderabad who wears hijaab. Perhaps u should know that hyd has 50% of its population as muslims. and one more thing....plz for GOD\'s sake, stop calling us pakistanis...why the hell should i talk about pakistani hyderabad, does it really make any sense after 55 years for u to say like that??

[khan]

I agree with u mr Tarun, Hording fo wealth has become a habit of hyd\'badis, they do make a lot of money in Saudi,UAE,UK,USA and else ware but just do not care much for the have-nots, which they leave behind.But then this is true for all the people and all the cities.....hence on this aspect i should excuse hyderabad and hydbadis, but will Almighty GOD excuse them, i doubt!

[Fidel Khan]

I do agree with what khan has to say. And one more thing for all those who don\'t know, Indian Muslim girls are far more conservative and dignified then their Pakistani counterparts. Here in our Country, in cities like hyd, bhopal(old), and Luckhnow and many other places, indian muslim girls observe hijaab very relegiously. Where as in Pakistan, hijaab is not much visiable.

[hyderabadi girl]

cud anyone plz plz tell me wht hijab means????????

[Shahjee]

ASA

I just would like to know from how long Khan & Farhan are living in Hyderabad? Most of last 30 years inhabitants of Hyderabad had migrated from one district or the other for the sake education and good city life. Are you guys one of those?

[Shahjee]

It means to feel shy to reveal openly all those parts of your face & body that must be kept covered to maintain a sense of confidence and decency to be out in public without any fear of being laughed at or arousing temptation of any kind.

[desiguy]

Hyderabad has definitely changed a lot - from true hyderabadi\'s perspective. Today\'s Hyderabad is very cosmopolitan and more diversified. But the etiquettes in social gathering and the refinement in day to day dealings has vanished. For example: Earlier, during dinner parties, people would wait to be invited to go to the dinner tables, when dinner is ready. NOW...it\'s a mess. It looks like they are more interested in the dinner than the host. I have seen literally a tug of war to grab a chair on the dinner tables. This kind of behaviour has become common even among the elite. Cars and money has become the measure of success. Not education or humbleness.

Although, one positive thing I have seen is the refinement in the Hyderabadi cuisine - That has improved a lot. Nowadays you really get very fine food..

[buddiga]

I do not agree with you Tarun. Atleast in USA when a hyderabadi meets another , we do talk about the good times at hyd and help each other.
I am coming back to hyderabad after
7 years for a visit. I have ye to experience the changes what I am reading about Hyd.

[Shadaab]

Interesting very interesting...All your observations are true. Hyderabad is being run by people with \"new money\"---Gulf, USA whatever…. Kids half my age are flashing swanky cars and flashy gizmos…I think the steady inflow of tax-free money is the reason for all tameez, tahzeeb, etc to disappear from here….Hyderabad was one place where the old world charm was intact despite the new found cosmopolitan status…but looks like things are now changing …..The new Corporate culture is also to blame…but I guess this culture also has some good aspects to it. For one it has changed work ethics and made Hyderabadis a little more hard working…

[Shahjee]

I could not agree more than what desiguy has to say about today\'s generation in Hyderabad. I guess parents were too busy minting money abroad and hence the next generation came up without any etiquette and table manners. Two months back I was invited to a wedding function in Banjara, where I noticed young man on my table in a eating frenzy. He was grabbing all the dishes as they were landing on the table and were not going to come again or he is going to die immediately after this party? Well he was well dressed, driving new gizmo as you have put it but did not have suitable manners to be in that party or to drive such a gizmo or to wear such clothes! what a shame? I think free flow of money made all the traditional values disappear in the name modernity and fashiion. Young generation of today absolutely lacks tenderness and sensitivity towards their elders. They are becoming totally and utterly spineless. Moreover cosmopoliton culture had really taken its toll on our youth. Something should be done about this?

[Dee]

i respect your thoughts mr khan
very well said, mr khanna u better watch ur words
we have some very respectable muslims in our community and and infact they are a part of our culture without which we wudnt have an identity in the present times
may hindu muslim understanding lead to a better relationship in the future

[khan_sahib]

Hijaab is abaric word for Vail or Burkha in urdu....this is meant to provide a girl with dignity and self respect which otherwise the girls today doeas not have, who think that flaunting flesh will make them mordern where as modernization comes only through ideas and thoughts...

[khan_sahib]

Hijaab is abaric word for Vail or Burkha in urdu....this is meant to provide a girl with dignity and self respect which otherwise the girls today doeas not have, who think that flaunting flesh will make them mordern where as modernization comes only through ideas and thoughts...