Hubbies and Beauty Parlors

by **An angry Singaporean** » Wed Mar 12, 2003 10:51 am

Guys and Gals, just want to know your opinions on the following issue:

Why should not a hubby who is genuinely interested in being with a wife and who genuinely enjoys being with her during her time in a beauty parlor, not be allowed into the beauty parlor? What is wrong if as a couple they want to be at the beauty parlor? OK if there are other women, I understand - but even if the wife has got a special appointment, they don\'t let the hubby inside. Is this fair? I have never seen this kind of rubbish behaviour in any country abroad? Why is India so screwed up and so damn bloody narrow minded towards legally married couples? Any opinions.

by **Devi** » Fri Mar 14, 2003 6:13 am

YES! I have an opinion, it\'s a simple thing called privacy that we Indians believe in. Your husband is yours and not of the rest of the women\'s who are also in the parlour. Anyway, whatever do you need your husband in a beauty parlour for!? Just out of curiosity... and what are you, a Singaporean, doing on a Hyderabadi website? Especially when you aren\'t happy with our city nor seem to be having any respect for our need for privacy?

by **Hindustani** » Fri Mar 14, 2003 6:18 am

Whoa! Why don\'t you stay put in \'your\' Singapore! Don\'t you dare call India such names, mind you. If India or its beauty parlours do not suit \'your\' preferences of tagging your husband along to even a beauty parlour (!) why go to India?! Stay put in your supposed country(ies) and take your guy along.

by **An angry Singaporean** » Sat Mar 15, 2003 4:56 pm

Excuse me!!! Why don\'t you read my message properly??? I asked why not allow husbands when a private time has already been booked in the parlor??? Please read properly before answering.

by **devi** » Sat Mar 15, 2003 9:41 pm

special appointment meaning, did u ask of them if u could tag along ur husband into their parlour ?! what were they supposed to do w/ the rest of the women who could have had an appt. at the same time?! Its their parlour and \'they\' will have \'their\' own rules ! It does not suit you, go elsewhere... there must be several, out of India...

by **neeraja** » Wed Mar 19, 2003 3:06 pm

Singaporian, do you know the rich cultural heritage of India? Do you know the value of our Indian women? If you need to take your wife to a bar or beauty parlor, sorry, not here. Go to Bangkok or your Singapore - we have our culture, tradition. We participate in Miss World, yet we maintain our limits and cultural value...

by **Someone Somewhere** » Wed Mar 19, 2003 3:35 pm

I agree with this!! Makes no sense !!! Keeping all the traditions intact there\'s still a scope of this country broadening its attitude towards such issues. They don\'t compromise on our heritage or our culture. We are not talking abt nude clubs or sex beaches. This isn\'t an issue that requires as much reaction as Neeraja and Devi are showing. Think of it - maybe u\'ll understand!!

by **Kumar** » Thu Mar 20, 2003 6:00 am

I agree with this. There\'s nothing that would affect our heritage and culture. I guess we need to change - and it\'s not any invasion of privacy as such...

by hi » Fri Mar 21, 2003 12:45 am

u ppl come here to talk bullshit@neeraja

by **Kumar** » Fri Mar 21, 2003 4:49 am

Everyone has go a right to express what they think on this issue, so Neeraja if you don\'t agree... just KEEP QUIET...

by **devi** » Fri Mar 21, 2003 6:29 am

YEAH RIGHT !

by Hi » Fri Mar 21, 2003 12:17 pm

Mr.Kumar, dikhao pe mat jao... Apni akal lagao... That message wasnt from neeraja! If you still understand, it was from me (Hi), to Neeraja (and devi), whose messages I felt were absolutely rubbish...

by **devi** » Fri Mar 21, 2003 2:09 pm

Hey! What\'s rubbish if I seek privacy!!? In a ladies\' parlour!!? I won\'t mind the other ladies, but I definitely mind the guys there, of course!! So what\'s rubbish abt\' that !!?
Yeah, right!! Tomorrow you guys may say, hey, be broad minded, why not naked!! Yeah, right!!

by **smiley** » Fri Mar 21, 2003 10:51 pm

Mrs. Singapore and Mrs. ---nation!
You want your husband to be with you at a parlor, but the women who work might not be comfortable, u know... Not all of us go abroad and want to change.
So, even if it\'s your private appnt. and there\'s nothing to feel shy \'bout it for you, it\'s what the majority feels, and if the beauticans are comfortable having a customer with her husband! For all you know, they mite want their hubbies to accompany them too... and whoa... what are we then asking for?

by **An angry Singaporean** » Sat Mar 22, 2003 7:50 pm

Well, we are asking for a family friendly beauty parlour. People abroad have realised the value of involving both the husband and the wife in every activity that concerns either of them. As for a certain lady\'s remark, all I can ask is why should you be pessimists to think the worst - that is about being naked.
Why don\'t you ever focus on the positive - that is about nurturing and fostering the growth of the relationship between the husband and the wife by involving them together in every activity. Remember a happy family means a healthy society and consequently a stong nation.

by **:)))))** » Sat Mar 22, 2003 8:50 pm

Hey ! A.n.n.ngry Singaporian whoa ! am I scared!.. theres\' an activity called \'let it out\' every morning and probabaly every evening.. (if you have ur greens regularly), do you get to do it together too, huh? Well WE INDIANS (and lots of other healthy ones too, except for some freaks ) to my knowledge, prefer to have personal time. We call it personal time and attending to personal stuff. we do not feel the requiremnet for our hubs/wives to be around us at certain moments such as these. No, but no thanks.
By the way, I live in US, in one of the most broad minded cities in US, and yet, this is my opinion, OK? got it? young lady ? what you do in your bed room is of your business, none of ours, but once you get it out, it becomes ours. So, when you stomp your feet and say, \" i wannnna get my hubby along with me to a beauty parlour, in india, where there are bound to be other ladies and they could be attending to their personal issues, so, what the heck! as long as i get my hubby along, for the sake of our personal growth (sic)..\" well, you got it coming, lady ! tomorrow you may even say, \"hey, as long as I am having a growth experince here with my hubby why cant\' I have our sex here, oh ! why can\'t I?! oh! be broad minded, oh, I am missing out on my growth experience just because of your narrow mindedness..oh, why cant\' you be like the nude beachists.. oh, Indians are so narrow minded, oh... why? !!\" I had say, stay put in your singapore and have all the FUN that you wanna have..along with all the growth that you seem to be needing. good luck.
Incidentally, i know of lots of people from singapore who go with their hubbies to the parlours and yet, when they come to india, they go alone. Its called respecting the culture of the place where you are visiting. Hey ! would you ask of a similar stuff off of, in Iraq or Kuwait or of any Muslim countries\' you could be visiting..huh? you will not dare to. Then why do you put your own (I am assuming that you are a born Indian, proud of being a singaporean and loves putting down India and its culture) country down? why do you have such a low esteem of your country and in turn on yourself? what kindda probs did you have in your childhood that you need to express yourself in a public place for your growth? why, why, why? oh, so many whys. I have to know. Hey, An.n.g.r.r.r.r.r.gy Singaporean I need to grow, I need this growth expereince, oh, pl.l.lu.u.ease! give me this one chance to grow. I will eternally be thankful to you.

by **:)))))** » Sat Mar 22, 2003 9:06 pm

Had an immense growth just now reading certain messages:)))) \'angry singaporean\'! Anyways, you sought opinions.. we gave ours. why are you angry about that? Its as if you wanted everybody on this board to say \'YES\' to whatever you said and whoever chooses to say anything else is full of crap ! and did I see you mentioning something about you being naked in the parlour..? If that is so, you difinetly have some prob, yaar. you gotta go to a therapist and get yourself checked.

by **:)))))** » Sat Mar 22, 2003 9:12 pm

.. and Neeraja does not have a right to express what she wants, hey, Kumar ?!! but \'you\' have a right to express on what Neerja has to say on what the Angry Singaporean and Devi have to say!! yeh, kya hua? kaise hua? kab hua? kyon hua? kya yeh mai naa sonchoo? My poor poor hyderbad,My love, what are they doing to you, meri jaaaan ?!!

by Hi » Sun Mar 23, 2003 1:14 am

Devi maa....i was referring to ur maukish behaviour abt indian values and indian culture(and definitely not ur privacy)....whats so great abt indian culture that u r so proud abt....for ur info our culture is the one where women has least basic rights...its just one among the thousands of non-significant cultures that this world have witnessed..!!

by **Kumar** » Tue Mar 25, 2003 1:06 am

Well, what I did mean was that if you don\'t agree on certain things, just refrain from posting rather that question people. C\'mon, we don\'t have to drag this issue... All I said was that if you think that you disagree or dislike what others have to say, so be it... I mean, how does it affect you personally? We cannot have a world where one would agree with every other person. So let people be what they are. That\'s the whole point. We don\'t have to attack people verbally for that. And anyways, I would like to end my views on this discussion...

by **Spanish Armadillo** » Sun Mar 30, 2003 1:43 pm

Hi, I am a woman from Spain and now in Madras on a visit and have been following this discussion closely. Well, all I have to say is that Devi and the person from the US never got the point that Angry Singaporean was trying to convey. I have had the same problem in India that Angry Singaporean was writing about. Well Singaporean, what you can do is to hire a personal beautician home. That works best. I have done this in Bombay and Bangalore, but am not sure about Hyderabad since the city seems to be too conventional. (I am assuming you are in Hyd, since from your post it is not evident where you are). No harm in trying though!!! It will cost you a little more than going to a parlor, but it is worth the effort. Do post if you find a personal beautician in Hyderabad. I am interested in knowing how you solved the problem. Take care.

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