I know this guy living in NJ, USA. Name is Jamil, I am a psychologist. I\'ve written several papers in my field and currently am writing a book on these very cases... I know these kinds too well jo hath tuje bheek de tu uski hath ko nuqsan puhunchana chahta hai... I treated him for yrs for free, I gave him tip money and I gave him charity so many times... I helped him pay his rent b/c he\'s mental and destitute... Well, in his case he came from Pak and that\'s a terrorist nation anyways, eh!!
This pathetic guy was opening portals like producing babies, like dogs litter, and was BEGGING FOR MONEY from the readers at his portals... He\'s such a liar that he goes around and collects money from my friends and lies to me... he has the audacity to leave rude msgs on my pager after all the good things I did for him due to my kind heartedness... This is how he pays to the hands who only gave him for yrs. Never help a paki. I did it, and he tried to tarnish my image. He badgers me at his portals - you tell what to do with this guy... I am sick of him. He\'s a ungrateful ahsan faramosh man to begin with.
Oh, these psychos!!
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Oh, these psychos!!
Dear Mr. Kind Soul, do not worry, you have done your best, which will certainly be answered, as someone is always watchin each of us from above. He will know your good thoughts and the deeds you have done... he will send you someone to help you when you need one, hence pls do not despair.
You did not see him as Paki or any national when you did that help... as a human to another human you did your best for this soul. He is ungrateful now, which would be taught to him by the Almighty. One day, mark my words...
You did not see him as Paki or any national when you did that help... as a human to another human you did your best for this soul. He is ungrateful now, which would be taught to him by the Almighty. One day, mark my words...
- Neeraj
- Guest
Oh, these psychos!!
Aaji aise manhooson ko tou sooli pe taang dena chahiye, aap tou bahut hi nek dil lagti hain... If i were in your place I\'d have killed him by now... What kinda ungrateful spineless moron is he to backstab you like that??? Sach hai neki kar dariya mein daal... aise kameenon ko tou zehar de dena chahiye... khud usse maut de de ameen som ameen. Aap fikr na karo khuda rasoon usse soovar ki maut naseeb karenge... hydi
- hyder ali
- Guest
Oh, these psychos!!
Hey, u r caling yourself a kind soul, but using the hard words. See, using the word psycho itself shows your arrogance. Then u r proudly announcing yourself as a psychologist. See, mentally challenged people are victims of God. They are surrounded by jealousy feelings, negative thoughts, hatred, revenge, zero confidence etc. Whether he is a Pakistani/Indian/Italian, a mentally challenged person is a victim of God. So don\'t try to find extensive mistakes in them. Gently at least try to avoid them. That\'s what u can do at your level.
- peeping tom
- Guest
Oh, these psychos!!
Sooner or later, everyone you know will disappoint you in some way.
They\'ll say something or fail to say something that will hurt you. And
they\'ll do something or fail to do something that will anger you. It\'s
inevitable.
Unfortunately, you make things worse when you stew over someone\'s
words and deeds. When you dwell on a rude remark or an insensitive
action made by another person, you\'re headed for deeper problems.
In fact, the more you dwell on these things, the more bitter you\'ll get.
You\'ll find your joy, peace and happiness slipping away. And you\'ll find
your productivity slowing down as you spend more and more time thinking
about the slight or telling others about it. Eventually, if you don\'t stop
doing it, you\'ll even get sick.
So what should you do the next time someone betrays you?
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS. Even though the other person
may be at fault, even though the other person wronged you, you are still
responsible for your own feelings. In other words, other people do not \"cause\"
your feelings. You choose them.
For example, two different people could be told that their suggestions made
at the staff meeting were \"stupid and idiotic.\" One person may \"choose\" to
feel so hurt that he never speaks up at any other meeting again. The other
person may \"choose\" to feel sorry for the critic, sorry that the critic couldn\'t
see the wisdom and necessity of her suggestions.
As long as you blame other people for your feelings, as long as you believe
other people caused your feelings, you\'re stuck. You\'re a helpless victim.
But if you recognize the fact that you choose your feelings and you are
responsible for your feelings, there\'s hope. You can take some time to think
about our feelings. And you can decide what is the best thing to say or do.
Then, you\'ve got to learn to WALK AWAY FROM DISAPPOINTMENT.
It\'s difficult to do, but it\'s possible. The famous 19th century Scottish
historian, Thomas Carlyle, proved that. After working on his multi-volume set
of books on” The French Revolution\" for six years, Carlyle completed the
manuscript and took volume one to his friend John Stuart Mill. He asked Mill
to read it. Five days later, Mill\'s maid accidentally threw the manuscript into
the fire. In agony, Mill went to Carlyle\'s house to tell him that his work had
been destroyed. Carlyle did not flinch. With a smile, he said, \"That\'s all right,
Mill. These things happen. It is a part of life. I will start over. I can remember
most of it, I am sure. Don\'t worry. It\'s all here in my mind. Go, my friend! Do
not feel bad.\"
As Mill left, Carlyle watched him from the window. Carlyle turned to his wife
and said, \"I did not want him to see how crushed I am by this misfortune.\"
And with a heavy sigh, he added, \"Well the manuscript is gone, so I had better
start writing again.\" Carlyle finally completed the work, which ranks as one of
the great classics of all time. He had learned to walk away from his disappointment.
After all, what could Carlyle have done about his burnt manuscript?
Nothing. Nothing would have resurrected the manuscript. All Carlyle could
do was to get bitter or get started.
And what can you do about anything once it is over? Not much. You can try
to correct it if it is possible, or you can walk away from it if it isn\'t. Those
are your only two choices.
Sometimes you\'ve just got to shake it off and step up (pun intended!!???
may be). It\'s like the farmer who had an old mule who fell into a deep dry well.
As he assessed the situation, he knew it would be difficult, if not impossible,
to lift the heavy mule out of the deep well. So the farmer decided to bury
the mule in the well. After all, the mule was old and the well was dry, so
he could solve two problems at once. He could put the old mule out of
his misery and have his well filled. The farmer asked his neighbors to help
him with the shoveling. To work they went. As they threw shovel-full of dirt
after shovel-full of dirt on the mule\'s back, the mule became frightened
. Then all of a sudden an idea came to the mule. Each time they would throw
a shovel-full of dirt on his back, he would shake it off and step up. Shovel-full
after shovel-full, the mule would shake it off and step up. In not too long a
time, the exhausted and dirty mule stepped over the top of the well and
through the crowd.
That\'s the same approach we all need to take. We need to shake it off and
step up.
Finally, you need to FORGIVE. It\'s difficult, especially when the other person
doesn\'t deserve your forgiveness or doesn\'t even seek it. It\'s difficult when
the other person is clearly in the wrong. Part of the difficulty comes from a
common misunderstanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn\'t mean that the
other person\'s behavior is okay. And forgiveness doesn\'t mean that the other
person is off the hook. He\'s still responsible for his misbehavior. Forgiveness
is about letting yourself off the emotional hook. It\'s about releasing your
negative emotions, attitudes, and behaviors. It\'s about letting go of the past
so you can go forward to the future. Everyone in your life, everyone on and
off the job is going to disappoint you. If you know how to respond to those
situations, you\'ll be way ahead of most people. You\'ll be able to live above
and beyond your circumstances.
Action: Identify two people that have disappointed, hurt, or angered you. If
possible, select two people towards whom you still have some bitterness.
Then ask yourself, \"How does my bitterness serve me? Am I happier holding
on to it? Do I sleep better? Is my life richer, fuller, and better because of
my bitterness?\" if you find that your bitterness is hurting you, make a decision.
Actually decide to let it go.
Walk away from the disappointment -- which means you no longer dwell on
it or talk about it.
They\'ll say something or fail to say something that will hurt you. And
they\'ll do something or fail to do something that will anger you. It\'s
inevitable.
Unfortunately, you make things worse when you stew over someone\'s
words and deeds. When you dwell on a rude remark or an insensitive
action made by another person, you\'re headed for deeper problems.
In fact, the more you dwell on these things, the more bitter you\'ll get.
You\'ll find your joy, peace and happiness slipping away. And you\'ll find
your productivity slowing down as you spend more and more time thinking
about the slight or telling others about it. Eventually, if you don\'t stop
doing it, you\'ll even get sick.
So what should you do the next time someone betrays you?
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS. Even though the other person
may be at fault, even though the other person wronged you, you are still
responsible for your own feelings. In other words, other people do not \"cause\"
your feelings. You choose them.
For example, two different people could be told that their suggestions made
at the staff meeting were \"stupid and idiotic.\" One person may \"choose\" to
feel so hurt that he never speaks up at any other meeting again. The other
person may \"choose\" to feel sorry for the critic, sorry that the critic couldn\'t
see the wisdom and necessity of her suggestions.
As long as you blame other people for your feelings, as long as you believe
other people caused your feelings, you\'re stuck. You\'re a helpless victim.
But if you recognize the fact that you choose your feelings and you are
responsible for your feelings, there\'s hope. You can take some time to think
about our feelings. And you can decide what is the best thing to say or do.
Then, you\'ve got to learn to WALK AWAY FROM DISAPPOINTMENT.
It\'s difficult to do, but it\'s possible. The famous 19th century Scottish
historian, Thomas Carlyle, proved that. After working on his multi-volume set
of books on” The French Revolution\" for six years, Carlyle completed the
manuscript and took volume one to his friend John Stuart Mill. He asked Mill
to read it. Five days later, Mill\'s maid accidentally threw the manuscript into
the fire. In agony, Mill went to Carlyle\'s house to tell him that his work had
been destroyed. Carlyle did not flinch. With a smile, he said, \"That\'s all right,
Mill. These things happen. It is a part of life. I will start over. I can remember
most of it, I am sure. Don\'t worry. It\'s all here in my mind. Go, my friend! Do
not feel bad.\"
As Mill left, Carlyle watched him from the window. Carlyle turned to his wife
and said, \"I did not want him to see how crushed I am by this misfortune.\"
And with a heavy sigh, he added, \"Well the manuscript is gone, so I had better
start writing again.\" Carlyle finally completed the work, which ranks as one of
the great classics of all time. He had learned to walk away from his disappointment.
After all, what could Carlyle have done about his burnt manuscript?
Nothing. Nothing would have resurrected the manuscript. All Carlyle could
do was to get bitter or get started.
And what can you do about anything once it is over? Not much. You can try
to correct it if it is possible, or you can walk away from it if it isn\'t. Those
are your only two choices.
Sometimes you\'ve just got to shake it off and step up (pun intended!!???
may be). It\'s like the farmer who had an old mule who fell into a deep dry well.
As he assessed the situation, he knew it would be difficult, if not impossible,
to lift the heavy mule out of the deep well. So the farmer decided to bury
the mule in the well. After all, the mule was old and the well was dry, so
he could solve two problems at once. He could put the old mule out of
his misery and have his well filled. The farmer asked his neighbors to help
him with the shoveling. To work they went. As they threw shovel-full of dirt
after shovel-full of dirt on the mule\'s back, the mule became frightened
. Then all of a sudden an idea came to the mule. Each time they would throw
a shovel-full of dirt on his back, he would shake it off and step up. Shovel-full
after shovel-full, the mule would shake it off and step up. In not too long a
time, the exhausted and dirty mule stepped over the top of the well and
through the crowd.
That\'s the same approach we all need to take. We need to shake it off and
step up.
Finally, you need to FORGIVE. It\'s difficult, especially when the other person
doesn\'t deserve your forgiveness or doesn\'t even seek it. It\'s difficult when
the other person is clearly in the wrong. Part of the difficulty comes from a
common misunderstanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn\'t mean that the
other person\'s behavior is okay. And forgiveness doesn\'t mean that the other
person is off the hook. He\'s still responsible for his misbehavior. Forgiveness
is about letting yourself off the emotional hook. It\'s about releasing your
negative emotions, attitudes, and behaviors. It\'s about letting go of the past
so you can go forward to the future. Everyone in your life, everyone on and
off the job is going to disappoint you. If you know how to respond to those
situations, you\'ll be way ahead of most people. You\'ll be able to live above
and beyond your circumstances.
Action: Identify two people that have disappointed, hurt, or angered you. If
possible, select two people towards whom you still have some bitterness.
Then ask yourself, \"How does my bitterness serve me? Am I happier holding
on to it? Do I sleep better? Is my life richer, fuller, and better because of
my bitterness?\" if you find that your bitterness is hurting you, make a decision.
Actually decide to let it go.
Walk away from the disappointment -- which means you no longer dwell on
it or talk about it.
- Telugu Thalli
- Guest
Oh, these psychos!!
Hi Himayatnagar, only your words are sickening me. OK? I am a person professionally involved with those lonely people. I can understand their pain in my long experience. I am sorry India is not so developed to accept schizophreniacs and bipolar victims. Please believe they are dying day after day. Their sufferings are unbearable. Depressive disorder is more of a killer than even chronic cancer. Please for heavens\' sake don\'t undermine the miseries of mentally challenged people. Call them by proper words. Try to accept their anger. Try to heal their wounds. Indeed, please don't start commenting straight away. Have you ever heard the Beatles\' songs trying to heal their wounds 40 years ago?
- peeping tom
- Guest
Oh, these psychos!!
Good post Telegu Thalli! You seem to be a nice guy.
A bit off topic, but can you tell me what\'s for dinner, tonight?
A bit off topic, but can you tell me what\'s for dinner, tonight?
- Siddiqi
- Guest
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