Rules of Attraction!

[Asli_Badmash]

I was watching the movie Rules… interesting and an intelligent movie. If you haven’t seen it… see it now.



As Tanuja (Dadi) recounts the Rules of Attraction to her love sick grand daughter :



1. Never show interest in the object of interest.



2. Never do the running around, let the object of interest try to find you.



3. Be mysterious.



4. Never show your softer side. i.e. Never show that you care for him.



5. To make him confess his love, show that you trust him and would never let his proposal down, even if you have to lie. According to Dadi, men are very insecure about being let down. So work on the insecurity to make the last step “I love you” happen.



Has anybody tried these rules? I can see how they work.



Did anybody ever have success ?



~Badmash~



PS: Some subtle assumptions that are made in the movie.



1. Both the people work for the same agency.

2. The model guy is not happy with his current girlfriend.

3. The model guy is a down to earth simpleton, who's only aim is to open a restaurant.

4. As soon as the model guy dumps his girlfriend, she takes off and doesn’t come back; ever.

5. The model girlfriend is immature and very career oriented.



People please... before you try any of the rules. Make sure you understand the plot and the dynamics very clearly.

[CtrlAltDel]

1. Never show interest in the object of interest.
2. Never do the running around, let the object of interest try to find you.
3. Be mysterious.
4. Never show your softer side. i.e. Never show that you care for him.
5. To make him confess his love, show that you trust him and would never let his proposal down, even if you have to lie. According to Dadi, men are very insecure about being let down. So work on the insecurity to make the last step “I love you” happen.

Has anybody tried these rules? I can see how they work.

Did anybody ever have success ?

those rules are not far wrong...for females! i used the male version , with lots of variation, depending on situation, and the outcome was successful....i married her!



i'll explain how each of the rules vary for men:



1)"Never show interest..." - for men this would help only upto the point of arousing the grl's interest. if overdone, the girl would lose interest.



2) "Never do the running around..." i strongly believe its the man's job to woo/chase....and it should be done decently and descretely (spelling?).



3) "Be Mysterious..." same as point (1). stretching the mystery too far wud result in the girl waltzing off with a less mysterious person. remember, girls generally DO NOT want to bet their future on a person they do not know properly.



4) "...the softer side..." Dead wrong for men. Women love being fussed upon. another thing guys: even if u r not the sensitive types, just pretend to be so at times - the girl wud flip over you! see a Sharukh Khan movie with her, even if you cant stand that wimp (poor me.... )



5) "...show that you trust him..." this holds true for men too.



these are the basic rules i followed and so did few others i know. but guys, girls are complex creatures. each rule needs to be varied depending on the women in question.



so the ultimate commandment is "STUDY AND KNOW THY WOMAN FIRST"

[Ramya]

So,Ctrlaltdel,how many girls do you have drooling on you?

But really,Iam quite impressed with those rules of yours,but I don't quite agree with the mysterious part of it all,a girl might as well ditch a guy who is too complex to understand-that's called lack of security!

[Asli_badmash]

Women.. trying to woo someone, as far as I can think it is like a WAR.



Let me explain:



have you ever seen a girl up close;



the patience with which

1. they apply make up and get ready

2. they choose their dress; trendy, sexy yet modest and coy.

3. they choose the people they hang out with.

4. they cultivate friends and develop a friends circle.



Everything points to the same thing...

1. Make up - War Paint.
2. Dress - Armour
3. Friends - Allies
4. Clubs and Hang outs - War Zone.

WAR....WAR.... WAR....



Guys are the poor naive creatures getting slaughtered in the name of love. So guys, beware always think one step ahead.



Look for the person(warrior) below the make up (war paint), designer clothes (armour) and never pick up girls in Clubs and Hang out places (War Zone).



To conclude, for women hooking a guy is like WAR. They will do anything, as is already said and I think a woman coined this phrase, Everything is fair in LOVE and WAR.



~Badmash~

[CtrlAltDel]

So,Ctrlaltdel,how many girls do you have drooling on you?

woh din kabki gaye...now i am just a Mon to Fri, 9 am to 6 pm bachelor!
only one literally drooling on me is my 7 month old son! i have to teach him those rules when he grows up, so that girls may drool over him too...aakhir beta kisska hai????

But really,Iam quite impressed with those rules of yours,

ThanX yaar!

but I don't quite agree with the mysterious part of it all,a girl might as well ditch a guy who is too complex to understand-that's called lack of security!

thats what i too said. read my last post once again...carefully!

[Ramya]

Badmashji,how many battles have you lost?

Go on with this attitude and trust me you will have a lot of wars to wage

And hey there's an easy way to make peace, give up on the war and get married to that femme fatal,then you wouldn't compalin(slaves cannot complain anyway )

[Mona Lisa Smile]

Funny (Mr Badmash) that ppl actually used the adjective "the weaker sex" to describe women. Aint like that any more is it?



Since you are so good at comparisons and listing out your observations I am sure you would have devised some strategy to "tame" em. Lets hear that too.....

[I'm smiling too]

Hey Badmash ... think you forgot to mention weapons



Abt the rules ... i dont know baap .... depends each guy is different ... yes , its true, thats not just a female absurdity! whats all this abt women are complicated blah blah blah . well think abt it like this : anything too simple is boring. women are not complaining about it , why are men! all ppl generally fall into some general categories ... the only differentiating factors are the lil touches of oestrogen and testosterone here n there. supposedly at around 50 male female body chem switch and by the age of 60 male and female biochemistry is more or less the same .

courtesy: Discovery channel .



BTW ... The Rules ... they worked ... i tried them when i didnt know they were rules ie before i even saw the movie. But if u really want rules ppl ... try the dating rule at the fullhyd netpals thing. pretty accurate, i thought. Step by step guidence for those absolutely lost souls.

Funny (Mr Badmash) that ppl actually used the adjective "the weaker sex" to describe women. Aint like that any more is it?

hey Mona , my sentiments exactly ! Degrading someone else just shows ones own level of self-esteem. dont you think ! ... guess Dadi was right abt men and insecurity

[Asli_Badmash]

Badmashji,how many battles have you lost?
Go on with this attitude and trust me you will have a lot of wars to wage
And hey there's an easy way to make peace, give up on the war and get married to that femme fatal,then you wouldn't compalin(slaves cannot complain anyway )

Ramya :
My Battle’s… countless but I wouldn’t call them battles, they were lessons in life and I have learnt a lot. It’s not about who lost or who won! It’s about who learnt what out of it.

In my previous post; I was trying to present an alternate view MAN-WOMAN relationship. I agree a little skewed, but it was designed to appeal to your funny bone. I see I missed the mark. But rest assured that’s not how I see it.

I am all about peace; but Ramya dear what was that about the husband being a slave? I think you know have something to say here… lets hear it. Do you think Men become slaves after marraige? or do you think they ought to become slaves after the knot?

Funny (Mr Badmash) that ppl actually used the adjective "the weaker sex" to describe women. Aint like that any more is it?

Since you are so good at comparisons and listing out your observations I am sure you would have devised some strategy to "tame" em. Lets hear that too.....

Mona Lisa:

Women… the weaker sex? They are anything but weak. They are tenacious little creatures (and I mean that in a good way). Isn’t it said, behind every successful man is a woman. Women lib and education has definitely had its effect on our society. India is in the catch up mode.. but we are getting there…



Tame a woman? There is no taming a hurricane. Even God couldn’t tame a woman (Eve); she ate the apple in Eden, when God asked her not to. And Adam paid for it dearly. To this date, Adam is paying for it, Adam pays for the food and fun, Adam pays for the shopping, Adam pays for the pedicure, Adam pays for everything. But, I also realize the love, affection and admiration he gets from Eve is priceless. So I guess it’s balanced.



Rules to tame someone? There are no rules, everything goes. After all Everything’s fair in Love and War. Sun-Tzu - Art of War says " Never reveal a shred of your plan to the enemy ".



You have to walk through the Ocean to learn the Motion… Senorita.



~Badmash~

[Asli_badmash]

Hey Badmash ... think you forgot to mention weapons

Interesting point... Which brings me to think.. Weapons of what kind!

this is what happens when a women is interested in you... she comes at you with

.22 Calibre Gun - One unassuming look

Shotgun - A look and a smile.

Machine Gun - A look, a smile and running hand in your awesome looking hair.

Tank - A look, a smile and occupying the seat next to the person.

Surface to Surface Missile - Casual conversation with person.

Surface to Air Missile - Exchanging phone numbers and thats it.

She is going to get you.... and you cant do anything about it.

hey Mona , my sentiments exactly ! Degrading someone else just shows ones own level of self-esteem. dont you think ! ... guess Dadi was right abt men and insecurity

Whoa... I am missing something here... Who is degrading whom ? When did a friendly banter turn personal ? Big words... smily babe(a.ka."I'm smiling too") "Self-Esteem"... "insecurity"... wait... or was this ploy designed to get a reaction.



I see it and I raise your bluff... Babe, Please dont nag and harangue on the age old topic of man's insecurity. Its a good thing... it keep you people in buisness. If we loose our insecurity.. Baby... nothing is getting throught that wall.. and then you will be left all alone.. wondering... is there someone out there for me. So take what you get and be happy! Beat that...



~Badmash~

[Ramya]

I am all about peace; but Ramya dear what was that about the husband being a slave?

Oh boy,haven't yet met a man who is the person even after marriage,I mean there are just so many commitments etc to keep up,you know aadmi dab sa jaata hai ,all the best to you anyway

[Asli_badmash]

I am all about peace; but Ramya dear what was that about the husband being a slave?

Oh boy,haven't yet met a man who is the person even after marriage,I mean there are just so many commitments etc to keep up,you know aadmi dab sa jaata hai ,all the best to you anyway

Usko Dabna nahin kehte.. usko kehte hain growing up.. After I get married I am sure I cant keep going to bars and late night parties.. But you wont understand the peace of family life.. if you havent lived the extreme life of bachelorhood... so live it up till you can and when you are tired of the having too much fun.. you can get married and have fun in a different way...



It comes with the deal... you want something(shaadi)... you give up something(your bachelorhood)... Everything comes with a price!



But look at the good side... You have a family.. You have little version(s) of you running around the house.... It is awesome...



I am taking my time and when I do want to become a slave... I will choose an awesome master.

[azazel]

I am taking my time and when I do want to become a slave... I will choose an awesome master.

BEST OF LUCK to that

[Spiff]

I see you and I raise you... HAHAHA ... you just keep proving me right over and over again . With the slightest of provocation you flare up like that ! i think its pointing towards something ... ahem.

Beat that...

we'd be out there alone ?! hello! excuse me ... who the hell are you gonna be with ! your argument works both ways and is therefore nullified.

hey look wanna declare peace now? No, that post wasn't to elicit any reaction from you. just a wisecrack i had to make. so truce ?

[Mona Lisa Smile]

You have little version(s) of you running around the house.... It is awesome...

you or/and your awesome master

[Ramya]

She is going to get you.... and you cant do anything about it.

That speaks a lot about empowerment and women!

But I always thought that women try to impress guys jo unhe zyaada "bhaav" nahin dete(not that one should ignore them,NEVER!).Actually there's this friend of mine whi is neither very good looking nor very smart(I never thought he was smart) but then I know he always seems to have a girl who's all 'fida' over him,wonder why?

[Asli_badmash]

Azazel:

Thanks.



Spiff (Originally smily babe):

It was never an argument that men are not insecure… My point was mans insecurity keeps women in business. And I don’t want to count women issues… which I can to a length. But I don’t… I just know they exist.



Its like this.. you don’t go to a langda(lame person) and say you are langda. You get him a wheelchair. That makes him happy and you more loveable. Similarly you don’t go to man and talk about his insecurities. Men will be men, they will be boys, they will always think with their “You know what” and they will always be insecure. What are you going to do about it? Nobody grows up unless they themselves want to. I have this to say to all women “Quit making projects to make your men grow up.”.



I don’t claim to be the greatest or the best. I have my imperfections and insecurity is one of them. But I accept the TRUCE and for the records I WON… (It’s not me; it’s my insecurity speaking… Hahahaha!)



Mona Lisa:

Right.. Little versions of me and my awesome master! Hey does anybody here know Rani Mukharji. I want to conduct a science experiment. You know... Asli_badmash + Rani Mukharji = ???



Ramya:

Yes, Women tend to impress guys who don’t show any interest in them. It’s like a challenge for them. It’s like; How dare he not look at me... I am so beautiful. He ought to be kissing my feet right now. I will make his look at me and want me. And then she proceeds to casually walk in front of the guy to pick up a glass of juice, which she doesn’t want in the first place. I wonder why ?



And someone call’s men insecure !

[asli_badmash]

Possible results of Badmash experiement :



Asli_Badmash + Rani Mukharjee = ???



Result:



1. Asli_Rani - Definetly Girl and a good one. She looks like she will wear pink and be the nazuk little doll.



2. Badmash_Rani - Girl and a Rebel. We are waiting for next Phoolan Devi anyway so this may be it !



3. Badmash Mukharjee - Looks like the name of a corrupt Neta.



4. Asli Mukharjee - Good Neta.



Anyway you look at it... Badmash and Rani will be rolling in money and fame. Not that Badmash need it.



Asli_Rani will be a model and an actress. Badmash_Rani will loot people and be the Robin Hood. Badmash Mukharjee and Alsi Mukharjee will take be looting the general public and evading tax.



Can someone please pass this to Rani Mukharjee....



~Badmash~



PS: Copy Righted Material. Badmash reserves the right to conduct experiments like this.

[Circle_Jerry]

Why is it that women always bring up the topic of POWER, WEAKER SEX, MEN BEING STUPID and stuff, in every topic related to men?



Frankly speaking...MEN DONT GIVE A SHIT.....





So go on and call us careless, over-excited, _ thinkers and call urself the cause of living.

[Asli_Badmash]

Why is it that women always bring up the topic of POWER, WEAKER SEX, MEN BEING STUPID and stuff, in every topic related to men?

Because women have been not been treated the best in the recent past and it is built into their system that somehow, their kind have been wronged and I can see why. They are merely treated as objects, something that fathers hands over to the son-in-law. They are denied the right to choose. No matter how many men deny this; I have seen it at work and I know this happens and lives are destroyed. Its sad but its true.

In America, women didnt have voting rights till about 60 years ago. Women in Middle-east are still treated wrongly with the purdah/burqa/rights issue. Women in India are subject to injustice day in and day out at work and at home. Women on this forum come from Indian families where in subtle ways their dreams and aspirations have been crushed. I can see why they are pissed. But... Who is to blame? MEN.

But ALL MEN! maybe not.

Frankly speaking...MEN DONT GIVE A SHIT.....

Some Men do.. They always want to be right. They want to boss around the women, they want to act the jerks. Feminists invented a name for them they are called the MCP's. But not all men are MCP's. They love their wives, sisters and mothers. MCP's also do the same, they love the women in their life. Maybe love has nothing to do with them being MCP's. Now I am confused.. then what is it ?

And to be politically correct I have seen some power hungry women. Who take on the same characteristic they hate in Men. Its like, lets give these men the shit they put us through and see how they react... And power is a drug.. more heady than LSD.

So go on and call us careless, over-excited, _ thinkers and call urself the cause of living.

I agree with you Jerry... This is a passive defense strategy, but I dont know if this would work. This gives the idea that men are scared of confrontation. So best thing to do here for women would be... call names, label us, shout, cry, pout and create a ruckus; obvious defense strategy. But is it right to do this ?



I personally dont want confrontation, but please dont stand on my toes and expect me to smile. I understand you have been wronged, but tell us how we can right it ?



Do the women here have anything to say.. Educate us Neanderthals.



~Badmash~

[JustaLittleUnwell]

Quite a war happening here :) To respond to the original topic (Rules of attraction?), I guess it helps to be proactive. The 'object of interest' (could be a man or a woman depending on your gender and sexual orientation) should feel comfortable in your presence. Here's where Ctrl's "study and know thy woman (or man) helps".



Reg. 'insecurity', i guess all of us have it to an extent and it is not the preserve of any one gender. I guess adhering to the age old 'give respect and take respect' diktat should help in overcoming your as well as the other person's insecurities.

[Ramya]

I guess it's going a bit too far,this whole thing about male and female.I personally believe that it's all about 'the person',how a person behaves wouldn't generally on the person being a male or female.And about women being wronged,perhaps yeah,in some socities,but then is there any point in squabbling over something's already done,what I expect of people now(pls note,not just men,bcoz there are women who dislike their own sex too,all those opting to abort the female child)is that they should learn to respect people-irrespective of their sex.





And yeah badmash:

Rani Mukhrejee has to be all impressed with your performance on the experiments

[Asli_badmash]

I guess I am getting too involved.. This discussion was supposed to be light.



Anyway... I agree with Ramya.



And, I am working on Rani Mukharjee. I dont know her yet. but if and when she gets to know me. I bet she will have good things to say about me.



People must be like... Yeah Right! Billi(cat) ke khuab(dream) mein chichade(meat)... or Badmash ke khaub mein Rani. ( With that Badmash turns into a mushy pile..)

[Five7Jaan]

Quite a discussion here! LOL, funny too!

The rules can be flexible and accomodating for anyone but this is what I believe.

You need the initial spark to start the fire.

[asli_badmash]

Quite a discussion here! LOL, funny too!
The rules can be flexible and accomodating for anyone but this is what I believe.
You need the initial spark to start the fire.

Some people have all the sparks, that warm and fuzzy feeling and the whole 9 yards... but sometimes the other side is as cold as the antartic ! What do you do then ? Keep hopeing that your spark will melt the entire antartic polar ice cap on the other side. I dont think works that way...



Basically it boils down to " What is the other person looking for and what are you offering ? " This is true long lasting mature love.. not the infatuations or short time crushes we have that eventually fade to nothing.



~Badmash~