Domestic relationships should be encouraged...

[lucifer in disguise]

hi every one...i believe the society should change its attitude on domestic relations....i.e a boy and a gal living toghether w/o a marraige btwn them......dont you ppl feel people can have this liberty? and hence should not therefore be considered evil....lemm e know what you guys think \'bt it...

[S H]

A typical example of \"EMULATOR\"
Please don\'t forget you are an Indian and if you can\'t do good dont try to do further bad to the Indian society - Hyderabadi society atleast.

Dont ACQUIRE - be original.

[Kishore]

I think the question here is what the meaning of marriage is in the first place, and why the practice was conceived. Marriage was conceived, in my opinion, to pass a message to society that an individual is no longer \"available\" to anyone else in the sexual sense, and also as a message to that person himself/herself that he/she is now not to look at any others in a sexual manner (let\'s ignore polygamy - it\'s obsolete). It is in that context that live-in relationships should be looked at. If in a live-in the man and the woman are both convinced that the basic objective of marraige - being only for each other - is being fulfilled, there is that trust, then there\'s no violation in spirit. Most of society is not actually offended by this - they just talk because they need fodder for gossip. Marriage aims to thrust the fear of God into the couple through all the religious activity associated, and thereby to force them to honor that relationship. But if in a live-in the couple is mature and ethical enough to do that by themselves, then it\'s as good as a marriage.

[lucifer in disguise]

ya.... Mr/Ms. SH... I agree with you , i am really doing bad to Indian Society.... which still encourages dowry, child marriages, ooof.. the list is endless... i was just talking about free love which is what i like in otehr parts of the world .... where....should 2 people marry each other....they respect and love else they will not live toghether... no partner dominates the other as in the case of the Very GOOD INDIAN SOCIETY...
i dont know what was the wrong you saw in my opinion...???

[Mohan]

Living in the West for about 7 years now, I think there is certain merit to the live in concept. One point that is missed by most people is that a live-in relationship is no different from a marriage (assuming divorce is legal and accepted in the society). The relationship is exclusive, i.e. the partners cannot have multiple sexual partners during the course of the relationship, they go thru most of the emotional experiences associated with marriage etc. A live in couple that breaks up goes thru pretty much the same emotional roller coaster as a divorced couple. A live-in relationship at least as practised in USA, is a marriage without the legal and perhaps the tax implications of a marriage.

In the west, sex is too casual an affair and Indians are way too uptight about it. There can be and should be a middle ground. There should be good interaction between the sexes, and at the same time, sex should not be treated too casually. The only reason for breaking a relationship should be something catastrophic like abuse etc.

[vibhuti sharma]

kishore , what you said is right in a way , but then , what does everybody want , why are they doing what they are doing every day , what does one finally want to have in life , its nothing but peace and happiness and when that is missing in most of the marriages , why do u think one shud still go for a marriage? Is the purpose being served?All you have talked about is from the angle of sexual relationships , but i think you dont know that sex has a very minor role in marriage and there something more than sex that is required for a successful marriage.I would say the western guys know how to be happy and enjoy life rather than living forcibly with a person with whom you do not have even a single thing in common.Are you doing this for the sake of this society?aren\'t you cheating yourself living such a life?I would surely support the live-in relationships , where you are living with the person you like and you can break it whenever you feel that neither is happy in that relationship.

[tarun]

yep , one will support such relationships if one\'s main aim is to have free sex , with no one questioning him/her about it.well , if one thinks that life is not all about only gals and sex and there is something called \'family\' where there is a soul-to-soul connection and then there are the kids who look forward to learn something from their parents , then , may be one will not support such relationships.

[VERITY]

Nothing wrong about it if both the
partners in the relationship have
no problem with it. As for the others, let \'em go to hell for
interfering in others\' business.

[maverick]

Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion..........If 2 mature ppl think that they can handle the repercussions of \"live-in relationships\" then all\'s well...the trouble arises if things don\'t work out......in most cases....heck all the cases..... the lady has a lot more to lose.....her reputation, her character.....all of it is up for public opinion/slander....we have to admit that Indian society is just not ready for such a thing.

[one n only one lucifer (in disguise)]

well,Mr.(whomsoever), Kids expect there parents more to be a role Model and do not care as to how grandly there parents marriage was performed...
and the couple which deciedes to have children will ofcourse be good for the sake of children........finally i think the people who cannot deciede/plan about themselves some thing like a marriage is /may be better, and for those who are matured enuff to understand what love, sharing, caring etc is all about... may not hence care about the marriage , society...