How should I take care of the aged?

by **anil kumar** » Wed Nov 05, 2003 5:53 pm

It is predicted that nearly 30% of the population of this country would be beyond the age of 60 as stated by gariatric society and with lot of them not able to take care of themselves, what kind of self help groups can be created is my predicament. can we do something about this??

by » Wed Nov 05, 2003 7:03 pm

Anil Kumar, the following came to my mind immediately: - We should vow to take care of our parents and other elderly relatives in the family, as far as possible. If every person vows not to abandon his /her parents and elders, that would go a long way in addressing the issue. Also, \\

by » Wed Nov 05, 2003 7:03 pm

Anil Kumar, the following came to my mind immediately: - We should vow to take care of our parents and other elderly relatives in the family, as far as possible. If every person vows not to abandon his /her parents and elders, that would go a long way in addressing the issue. Also, \\

by **JustaLittleUnwell** » Wed Nov 05, 2003 7:06 pm

Damn! What\'s wrong with the site? Anyway, this what I was trying to say:
 
 Anil Kumar, the following came to my mind immediately:
 
 - We should vow to take care of our parents and other elderly relatives in the family, as far as possible. If every person vows not to abandon his /her parents and elders, that would go a long way in addressing the issue. Also, \"charity begins at home\" goes the saying.
 
 - Having said the above, I do agree that there could be reasons beyond an individual\'s control due to which he/she is forced to leave the elder ones in the care of old age homes. So, as the old population increases, there is going to be a need for more such homes and a need for more help from able-bodied people like us. We need to do everything possible by contributing time and money to help in the smooth running of such homes. (a.k.a. Volunteerism)
 
 - There are also the commercially run institutions for people who can afford them. These institutions may proliferate to address this growing need. While this is a good thing, we need to watch out for the money-minded ones which may not provide the quality of care that is required. To check the same, we need to have auditors who can be from the government or private (e.g. like ISO 9000 etc.) who can certify that the elderly-care institution does maintain high standards of care.
 
 I\'m not sure if I have any more suggestions.

by **Arch** » Wed Nov 05, 2003 8:14 pm

Hi Anil Kumar, FOREMOST we have to inculcate the idea of excercisng:yoga way for a better physical and and mental health for our elders along with a good lot of nutritious food and some daily doses of vitamins and calcium either through sources of food or medication.
 Have an Health Insurance taken on their names along with yours so that they will feel secured that you DO care.
 60 is NOT an old age. It should be the beginning of their own lives after a loong stint at giving their youth to their children\'s healthy growth and therby deriving the satisfaction of having done so.
 We can encourage communities in the midst of the city, (instead of just old age homes) where our parents/grand parents can stay together by themselves where they have all the facilities required for their typical needs.
 Such communities may give them the feeling of belonging and the pace that is comfortable for them. This is a very practical problem that we have personally faced at our home: the fast pace that is required in todays world to my parents/in-laws and our mutual grand parents needs at our home.
 They wanted to give in, we wanted to and in turn it was not of help to either of us on a day to day basis. we could see what they were going through for \'our\' need to take care of them !! and they confirmed our observation !!! There had been immense amts of love and care that we shared together along with roj-ki-thodi-si-khit-pit ! They are staying by themselves in their own respective homes nearby in a communtiy.

by **anil kumar** » Fri Nov 07, 2003 11:44 am

thanx!
 as a matter of fact, charity begins at home. yes i agree with that. i am having some land at chilkur, which i intend to utilize for creating a facility for the aged. do u know someone who can provide consultancy on this..anil kumar

by **anil kumar** » Fri Nov 07, 2003 11:51 am

thanx guys for the response.. but could u guys let me know if there is any nodal agency in hyderabad which could provide me guidelines or consultancy in setting up a home for the aged in chilkur. i have some land there and is walkable distance away fm the now famous, chilkur balaji temple and is an ideal location for the elderly. do u know some one who can help me.... regards

by **anill kumar** » Fri Nov 07, 2003 11:53 am

how do we go about doing that.. any ideas?

by **JustaLittleUnwell** » Sat Nov 08, 2003 3:11 pm

Anil Kumar, firstly my good wishes for your initiative. I am not aware of any consultants, but i\'m sure a lot of info can be gathered over the Net. Pls feel free to email me on jlunwell@hotmail.com. I would like to help in whatever possible manner, as I am generally free on weekends.

by **anil kumar** » Sat Nov 08, 2003 4:23 pm

i understand that helpageindia is supporting projects like mine and am trying find out more about the norms etc., i understand that they have an office in hyderabad. shall keep u posted....regards

by **arch** » Sat Nov 08, 2003 6:27 pm

sorry, could not reply to you earlier. What JLU said about gathering the info on the net is good to start with and then gather those of your friends and family whose needs are similar and have a communtiy built. Approach several builders who have ethics (keeping in mind that these are for our older generations), take the information that they can give and then decide whoever suits your requirements the best. A good hospital with all the required facilities nearby is s must. If the communtiy is near to most of their family in the city again makes it that much more accessable for their/your emotional/health/daytoday needs along with your children growing in their grandparents\' presence....

by ZC » Sat Nov 08, 2003 6:32 pm

Taking care of Children, Old people and Pets require the same kind of attitude, dedication, love and affection etc etc.

by **anil kumar** » Tue Nov 11, 2003 2:56 pm

thanx arch, have contacted couple of architects to work on this project and i should be able to come with some layout suitable for the aged and as advised by u, am looking for a medical facility too nearby. should be able to freeze the ideas soon.
 thanx ZC, i would remember ur advice...regards to all.

by **arch** » Tue Nov 11, 2003 8:53 pm

wow, u r working at it real fast, anil kumar. generaly we tend to be more lethargic rather than work at that we had been wanting to attend to

keep up the pace !

by **anil kumar** » Fri Nov 14, 2003 5:47 pm

hi arch! thanx 4 the compliment. as a matter of fact, i feel that i have delayed this project for quite some time, since the thought occured to me quite some time back. thanx to our daily routines and nonsense in life, we keep ignoring our internal call fm the heart to do something proper. our routine catches up and hence i have decided that i do something before it is too late. i am trying to wake up the helpage india people for the past few days to provide me some basic details, but to no avail. if u know someone who stays near this nallakunta, then i should be able to co-ordinate things with helpage. my layouts for the proposed home for the aged is also getting ready and i should be able to post things soon. arch! in case u r free, could u gather info fm the net and keep me posted. my mail id is reachout@yours.com....regards anil

by **anil kumar** » Sat Nov 22, 2003 1:02 pm

whenever i look at the bboard, i realize that caring for the aged seems to be the last of the priorities for everyone around here. surprising!!!
 i have a feeling that i will have to go thro quite a bit of an effort to find support and solutions for my project.. in the meanwhile, all of u guys enjoy. shall keep u posted fm time to time. atleast this will become my diary.

by **anil** » Sat Nov 29, 2003 7:20 pm

hi all!
 just finalized a tentative layout for the home for the aged at chilkur. would be spread around 20000sft and the project cost is being worked. wish me luck. my dairy posting no2

by **anil** » Sat Dec 20, 2003 4:49 pm

Guys! i managed to get the approval of the layout for the home for the aged and should be able to find some funding agencies at the earliest. am planning to create a model of the home. any suggestions from anyone?

by **anil** » Fri Dec 26, 2003 5:25 pm

wish u all a happy and prosperous \'04

by **Porus** » Fri Dec 26, 2003 6:48 pm

Anil Kumar,
 Nice to know about ur project. I am joining Sr. Citizen\'s club soon. I am in Hyd and shall join u in ur efforts. Mail me at Purushg@indiatimes.com

by **anil** » Sat Dec 27, 2003 3:03 pm

thanx porus!
 i will mail u seperately soon and what do u mean by u joining the sr.citizen\'s club. how old r u?
 honestly let me know if this idea of creating a place for the aged at chilkur could work. any idea how these kind of projects are funding?
 i am currently putting my own funds and of course i have the blessings of my parents who support me on such projects and i think i should be able to do this pilot. guide me if u can too.
 thanx sir!

by **anil** » Sat Dec 27, 2003 3:48 pm

arch!
 do u have an email id so that i can correspond with u too..
 regards

by **anil** » Fri Jan 02, 2004 2:15 pm

hi!

am looking for volunteers to help me with my pilot for the home for the aged. can anyone help me out on this ?

by **my irritation** » Thu Jan 15, 2004 4:36 pm

hi all!

this discussion board has given me couple of leads and motivation to implement the project that i have in my mind.. but everyone seems to be worried about trivial things in life rather than giving something back to society.

i think subject like should premarital sex be legalised or some topic like that would get response and everyone would worry>> but surprisingly among so many hyderabadis who go thru the discussion board, do not seem to take a project of tangible dimension seriously.

anyway i will keep this as a diary for all its worth..

bye guys

by **my irritation** » Mon Feb 23, 2004 4:18 pm

guys!

this city wont change, for any thing good.

it just needs topics related to extra marital flings or pre marital affairs etc., etc.,

nobody and i mean nobody worries about the underprivelaged.

that's the world i suppose.

bye

How should I take care of the aged?