Mother-in-law vs Daughter-in-law

by **Saira** » Wed Sep 18, 2002 10:47 pm

Since the beginning of civilization maa-in-law and daughter-in-laws are at war. Who is to be blamed? Why do they behave in this manner? Is it their possessiveness or love. Or it is sons /husbands create problems purposely to get attention from both sides ? Why can\'t they enjoy their life and let others enjoy it too?

by **True Fact** » Wed Sep 18, 2002 11:08 pm

I would say it all depends on how the husband hadles both these women. The husband should be able to tell whats right and whats wrong.In most of the cases the Husband tends to tell his wife \"Shes ma Maa so you got to bear with wahtever she does, I can\'t go against her\". This irks a disliking in the DIL against her MIL and here starts a new era of cold war between the two ladies.!!!!

by **DIL** » Thu Sep 19, 2002 12:15 am

How should a DIL react when a MIL says to her son---beta, why are you doing house work, stop doing it....
Being a DIL this created instant hatred towards my MIL. That is just a sample. There are so many others. After going thru all these, do you feel one can show (atleast act) love towards MIL? I don\'t think so.

by **Anil** » Thu Sep 19, 2002 10:35 am

There is a similar board, which you can find it on 4th page relative to your message. The title is Mothers-in-law by Balu. You might be interested in that.

by **neeraj** » Thu Sep 19, 2002 2:59 pm

wedding is union of two families and not a business deal,,, todays d-in-laws are tomorrow m-in-laws, it is only a cycle, hence dear d-inlaws and dear m-in-laws, you are the family to guide for harmony and not the laws, hence please understand the concept and stop having this undercurrent.

do agree the mother -in -law is so possessive about his son, but pls do agree the d-in-law is the only person who is going to be with the son(Husband) till the last as only the husbad/wife relationship there is no limits.

Hence mother-in-laws, please consider your d-in-laws as your our blood(daughters) and please remember your innings are over, and please give the young ones a chance to serve you and to be served with harmony in the family , than always bossing over.....

by **neeraj** » Thu Sep 19, 2002 3:03 pm

dear DIL. please remember you are a young blood now, and you will certainly have a role to play as MIL one day, what you sow now you will reap , the reins of the family cart is in your hands to drive it out carefully without any imblance, hence treat your MIL with love, it is afterall she who had given you , your handsome loving husband...

by **Saira** » Thu Sep 19, 2002 10:27 pm

I agree with DIL, if MILs are so insensitive towards DIL\'s feelings then hatred is going to grow. I wish these MILs start loving their DILs like their own daughters. It will not only end this cold war but also it will bring lots of respect to both relations. Somebody has to come up with a formula to remove insecurities from MIL\'s subconscious. That will be the last day of the cold war.

by **HiNa** » Fri Sep 20, 2002 12:19 pm

Saira , you\'ve started a very interesting topic but I\'m sorry to say that there is no solution to this particular problem.According to my experience only about 5% of the DIL & MIL\'s get along, but the rest of the 95% have problems.I think its the relationship itself that creates the problem, we cannot blame either one for it.The mother thinks that she has given birth and raised the son and gone through hell so she deserves all the attention and love even after the son is married, which by the way is totally true.The MIL thinks that after she has done so much for the son \" yeh kal aaiye so bacchi mazay kaiku lootna\".On the other hand the DIL wants the husband all to herself. She thinks that he is married to her so all other relationships don\'t mean anything anymore.The poor husband is stuck in the middle trying to create peace and harmony between the two most important people in his life but what he hears is this from the mother \" do din may unay acchi hai mai buri dikhriyoon, kyaa ghol kay pilaii ki\".The wife says \"agar ittaich amma say dartay to shaadi kaiku karay they aap hamari zindagi tabah karnay ku\".I think it takes a lot of patience and understanding for both the ladies to get along happily under one roof.

by **Saira** » Fri Sep 20, 2002 12:49 pm

Hina, Don\'t you think it is the men who don\'t want two ladies to be in peace. Men usually take one side instead of giving love and attention to both ladies. Jab yeh mard sambhal jayenge to sari duniya main shanti hi shanti hogi.

by **Naz** » Sat Sep 21, 2002 12:59 pm

How very true!!! And I wish the men would understand it is not a race but living to gether in harmony.

by **Shahed** » Sat Sep 21, 2002 1:11 pm

Kya saira ji, When DIL can not handle a MIL comfortably and VICE VERSA then how come any poor chap can handle both DIL n MIL at at time. I mean to say DAT jab lohe ko loha nahin kaat sakta tou ye tou bechaara MUNJAL kya karega. BTW thez one IDEA you know., As a hubby always say yo are right and my mother is wrong..And as a son always say mom you are right my wife is wrong..It will solve the problem...But dont let them to come in front of each other..Otherwise Munjal Gaya Kaam Se....Lol ♣

by **Hina** » Sun Sep 22, 2002 7:23 am

Saira , to tell you the truth this is the only place or point in which I truely feel sorry for men all the other things i don\'t pity them.

by **Saira** » Tue Sep 24, 2002 11:31 pm

Shahed bhai, yeh munjal ki misal badi zabardast di aapne LOLOL

by HM » Wed Sep 25, 2002 12:09 am

Saira kaash aaisa ho sakta magar yeh sudharna aur sambhalna mard ki fithrath mein kahaan likha hai!lol......

by **Shaik** » Wed Sep 25, 2002 2:27 pm

HM: Kassh yeh doh (two) aurtien agar sudhar jatee toh Munjal bechara donno ko duwaien deta!!!lollllllllllllll..

by **neeraj** » Wed Sep 25, 2002 3:10 pm

hina i could not follow pls reply in english please

by **laskar_sikandrabadi** » Wed Sep 25, 2002 10:32 pm

Dekha Kulcha bhai,

DIL MIL se milgayee aur MIL DIL se kush. Beech mein maara gaya bichaara MIA

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