Best thing about having a Boyfriend/Girlfriend

[mAnOmAn]

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." -

-- Germaine Greer

[Niky Luv]

If you think lust is the only reason to have a friend of girlfriend then believe me what you need is a prostitute not a girlfriend.

your understanding gives me a whole new respect for dil4crazy in thread http://www.fullhyderabad.com/discussions/viewtopic.php?t=42315. At least he is honest in his pursuit and words. I pity the girl who is your friend.

LOLzzzzzzzzzzz

Akshay,

Itta dil pe mat le yaar. Sehat ke liye achcha nahi hai. Majaak bhi koi baat hoti hai.

Arre baap idhar dil ki baath chal ri hai, ab ye bhi dil pe naa liya tho kya khaak loonga dil pe. They were just my .02 take it easy luscious.

no really, its not just lust u knw..its how the other person makes u feel.. and if its lust..its not love .. umm its first love.. and then u probably develop lust..lolzzzz

hmmm...maybe how lustful i get about someone, hmm makes me think of no one ...and then we wake up but its too late, we married!!! damn!

i dont get it..

Doctor saab,

What I think he is trying to convey is that by the time he finds the person he lusts for he would already got married.

Seriously??? Mujhe bhi samajh mein nahi aayaa

I believe that the moment is near when by a procedure of active paranoiac thought, it will be possible to systematize confusion and contribute to the total discrediting of the world of reality

Ha ha

More confused,

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh wht sorta complicated language is that??????

[akshay]

One of my friends, a girl, recently met a guy at a desi eatery. She liked him as he was handsome. And he introduced himself to her. Then things proceeded so fast that apparently within no time he mentioned he wanted to sleep with her. She didnt like the idea at that point of time and cut his dream short. So if lust is the reason for boyfriend/girlfriend then how come she refused despite his persona appealing to her lust? Lust has its beautiful place in the relation but not the engine that runs it, the engine is mutual support, admiration and affection.

[smack]

One of my friends, a girl, recently met a guy at a desi eatery. She liked him as he was handsome. And he introduced himself to her. Then things proceeded so fast that apparently within no time he mentioned he wanted to sleep with her. She didnt like the idea at that point of time and cut his dream short. So if lust is the reason for boyfriend/girlfriend then how come she refused despite his persona appealing to her lust? Lust has its beautiful place in the relation but not the engine that runs it, the engine is mutual support, admiration and affection.

Akshay,



One example I can quote....



One of my frnd, a girl, recently met a desi guy at a pub and he introduced himself. Though he was not very good looking, apparently something clicked. They dated twice and next week she hopped on a flight to his town and lost her virginity to him and they already are talking of moving in together since he is moving to her town soon.



Love??? Mutual Admiration?? Lust?? All in 2 dates??



And a day before that flew to tht guy's place, she was professing her love / admiration / infatuation to another guy whom she met on internet and only spoke couple of times over phone. Love?? Lust?? What???

[Akshay]

^^^^^^^^



From all the responses and outside experiences it seems there are multiple views on subject relationship. I will not talk about your friend, for I do not know her. But I will stick to what I said: a relationship purely based on lust is unsustainable. A relationship intiated through lust is still sustainable, but only if the supprt/admiration/affection find their place in it.



I am starting to feel that the definition of girlfriend/boyfriend is subjective. In which case we both are comparing apples to oranges.

[smack]

a relationship purely based on lust is unsustainable.

Obviously not sustainable. The people involved would move on the moment they find a better lust partner.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

But I will stick to what I said: a relationship purely based on lust is unsustainable.

The fun part of such relationship begins when the gal/guy breaks up and finds a new partner leaving you wondering if there was anything wrong with you. Not good.

[Cragg]

“Lust's passion will be served; it demands, it militates, it tyrannizes.”

[akshay]

^^^^

well, we agree on something. once again such short term lustful episodes will be better served with women of profession than with the emotions of a dedicated. Maybe I am just being an aberration here, but so be it.

[akshay]

a relationship purely based on lust is unsustainable.

Obviously not sustainable. The people involved would move on the moment they find a better lust partner.

well, we agree on something. once again such short term lustful episodes will be better served with women of profession than with the emotions of a dedicated. Maybe I am just being an aberration here, but so be it.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Love according to Hobbes

[paris_dakar]

ok, i might have come across as if I had an epileptic attack in the middle of the post but let me try again.



in response to the lust bashing, I said we lust after women until we lust after the one that makes us forget everyone else and the before we know it, we are married with kids. happies bandh, torture shuru!



But seriously,



we meet a lot of people, we love them in the sense that we care about their well being and all that nut wringing stuff. we also lust after a lot of the people we meet but the interest is kept by only the one that we really dig. then we reach a phase wherein passion, empathy, concern and so on become a circle, one pulling the other in....catch my drift?



no lust, no babies, no we and certainly nobody to love. eg; Love doesn't drive us to make babies...don't wanna sound like a twisted _, draw your own inferences.



Don't put down lust(although passion is the word i'd prefer but just for the sake of prcedent, i go with lust) by characterizing it in a bad light. When i meet someone, I do checkout the vitals...and then since i, like most of us, fancy myself to be a little more complicated than animals; start talkig instead of flicking it out and ....



I lusted after the woman I am marrying now but I always loved her because we go a long way back...all the way back to iskool. the thing to point out to here is that the thought of marrying a friend did not occur until we could feel the passion for each other. i love a lot of people but this one I really love...comprende?

[Niky]

ok a relation needs lust..but a relation never starts off with lust.. it starts off with love..then proceeds to the nexxt stage which also depends if they are ready or whatever

[Cragg]

Lust exists actually , Love is a creation of the highly imaginative human mind.





But there is no logic or reasoning to do something purely based on lust.



An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity.

[smack]

ok a relation needs lust..but a relation never starts off with lust.. it starts off with love..then proceeds to the nexxt stage which also depends if they are ready or whatever

A relation starts off with good looks and then love holds it together and lust makes it worth while

[Cragg]

I'll not listen to reason . . . . Reason always means what someone else has got to say.

[akshay]

A relation starts off with good looks

What boloney???!!!! U mean to say physically less presentable have less chance at a relationship?????

[Sharjeel]

A relation starts off with good looks

What boloney???!!!! U mean to say physically less presentable have less chance at a relationship?????

Yes, 80% of the time.

[akshay]

A relation starts off with good looks

What boloney???!!!! U mean to say physically less presentable have less chance at a relationship?????

Yes, 80% of the time.

Smack has been banned, so he might not reply.

Wont agree with that well scientifically proven observation of 80%.

[labelle]

i dont think that a person's vital stats has got anything to do with his/her success in a relationship. i do agree to the point when sherry said that good looking people manage to attract people but how many are able to sustain a realtionship. even shakespeare said that people who look intelligent or beautiful might not be in reality. it all depends upon when a person starts speaking and knowing. i guess each and every person has a kind of sense to evaluate as to what is good and what is bad. i guess its time to give our sensory perceptors a little rest and start seeing the person in a different light!. beauty today gone tomorrow. it is worth waiting for a soulmate rather than falling for some alabaster.



@ Cragg: give it a thought. would lust find you a soulmate who would be there with you till the end of your life. open your eyes and look around people who have a successful and happy realtionship.

[Cragg]

i dont think that a person's vital stats has got anything to do with his/her success in a relationship. i do agree to the point when sherry said that good looking people manage to attract people but how many are able to sustain a realtionship. even shakespeare said that people who look intelligent or beautiful might not be in reality. it all depends upon when a person starts speaking and knowing. i guess each and every person has a kind of sense to evaluate as to what is good and what is bad. i guess its time to give our sensory perceptors a little rest and start seeing the person in a different light!. beauty today gone tomorrow. it is worth waiting for a soulmate rather than falling for some alabaster.

@ Cragg: give it a thought. would lust find you a soulmate who would be there with you till the end of your life. open your eyes and look around people who have a successful and happy realtionship.

Nothing exists except atoms and empty space; everything else is opinion.

But I think u got me wrong I never advocated lust ,

But there is no logic or reasoning to do something purely based on lust.

An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity.

these were my words.



I wud neither start a relationship based on Lust or Love . That implies that I will not start a relationship for anything now. Then I will save someone from the pain of love and pleasure of lust. Or whatever



"Reality leaves a lot to the imagination. "Thanx for the guidance.

[mAnOmAn]

i dont think that a person's vital stats has got anything to do with his/her success in a relationship. i do agree to the point when sherry said that good looking people manage to attract people but how many are able to sustain a realtionship. even shakespeare said that people who look intelligent or beautiful might not be in reality. it all depends upon when a person starts speaking and knowing. i guess each and every person has a kind of sense to evaluate as to what is good and what is bad. i guess its time to give our sensory perceptors a little rest and start seeing the person in a different light!. beauty today gone tomorrow. it is worth waiting for a soulmate rather than falling for some alabaster.

@ Cragg: give it a thought. would lust find you a soulmate who would be there with you till the end of your life. open your eyes and look around people who have a successful and happy realtionship.

Nothing exists except atoms and empty space; everything else is opinion.

But I think u got me wrong I never advocated lust ,

But there is no logic or reasoning to do something purely based on lust.

An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend, excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity.

these were my words.

I wud neither start a relationship based on Lust or Love . That implies that I will not start a relationship for anything now. Then I will save someone from the pain of love and pleasure of lust. Or whatever

"Reality leaves a lot to the imagination. "Thanx for the guidance.

Easy le yaar ladki ki baat pe serious hote hai kya??? woh bhi cragg ??

[labelle]

Easy le yaar ladki ki baat pe serious hote hai kya??? woh bhi cragg ??

did i say anything wrong or funny?

[sara]

It seems so from craggs reply.



But I totally agree labelles view on this.





i think craggs complex sentences were wrongly interpreted.

[paris_dakar]

ok a relation needs lust..but a relation never starts off with lust.. it starts off with love..then proceeds to the nexxt stage which also depends if they are ready or whatever

never? look around real hard. in my case the love was already there but passion came in and that took the relationship to a different plane.





To start a fire, don't you need somehing to make the sparks? men and women get attracted for different reasons. My criteria for attraction does not depend on the cup size or the other stats...but i do check out the physical package alongwith the personality (too bad i can't do it anymore)...but is that love? love blossoms, meaning it takes time. love and passion blend so much in a relationship that sometimes one can't make the distinction; we talk about different types of love, don't we?



Someone over here gave out stats for ugly people. define ugly, guy.