How do I make my husband fall in love with me?

[MaleFemale]

Hey Kajol, Why does he have to fall in love with you? Infact, why do you have to love him if he does not love you?



Fall in love with somebody who loves you(ME?? ). AND ENJOY!!

[kajal]

hey..malefemale !!! why shud i fall in love...with u??



i am a traditional and sincere lady...and i love my husband...only that i shud have best of both world....i.e. husband's love also.



thanks for all those peoples who have advised me in the board..

I must add

"YOU HAVE SHOWN ME THE WAY"...

THANKSSSS

[Talk to him.]

Kajal,



If i am not wrong, Its your completely personal issue, rather than posting in this group, you would have spoke to your husband on one fine evening, walking or sittin in a good calm open place. Talk to him, Know him, Try to find what makes him for not loving you. Tell him how much you want to get his attention. It will work. I dont know either all the others advices are right or wrong. If i will be in your position, i will do the above. First i will speak to him heart to heart content and i will express him how much i love him.....your wish.



Ravi.

hi all... i got married a year back.....it was arrange marriage...i like him a lot...but he????!!! I donn't think so....can u suggest me ways to make my husband fall in love with me.....

[aks]

hey..malefemale !!! why shud i fall in love...with u??

i am a traditional and sincere lady...and i love my husband...only that i shud have best of both world....i.e. husband's love also.

thanks for all those peoples who have advised me in the board..
I must add
"YOU HAVE SHOWN ME THE WAY"...
THANKSSSS

FINALLY! MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

KAJAL CONFUSED..

DOES HE OR DOESN'T HE ....

FINALLY LOVE U?

[uzma]

hey..the issue may appear to be personal...but u forget that this is a common problems among girls..who have arrange marriage..want to have love and affection of husband but cann't say... rather find ways to do ,as their parents...friends..well wishers live in different part of india....or just that , they want to know....



infact , this is a forum to learn and understand human relationship...problem....the more we express ..more we get to know...and it gives choice...ways....a positive approach.



Infact if u see the comments..u will understand the genuiness of it...

i think many will support such post..as it allows us...'others'... to, if not to solve someone 's problem, atleast give valuable suggestions

Kajal,

If i am not wrong, Its your completely personal issue, rather than posting in this group, you would have spoke to your husband on one fine evening, walking or sittin in a good calm open place. Talk to him, Know him, Try to find what makes him for not loving you. Tell him how much you want to get his attention. It will work. I dont know either all the others advices are right or wrong. If i will be in your position, i will do the above. First i will speak to him heart to heart content and i will express him how much i love him.....your wish.

Ravi.

hi all... i got married a year back.....it was arrange marriage...i like him a lot...but he????!!! I donn't think so....can u suggest me ways to make my husband fall in love with me.....

[Real Dumbo]

Hi



Never ever try to make some thing or plan something to make some one love you.



One ultimate reality i found is that if you love some one it is not necessary that they should reciprocate it back.



Love him, accept him and respond with heart not with mind in all circumstances. Though it will be late it will be permanent.



Though what i say may be vague this is truth.



True Friend

Real Dumbo

[divineattribute]

If hunsband doesn't love his wife or vice-versa then first of all they should not get married. I do not oppose arranged marraige but if you are doing so then you should first of all know each other well before you go ahead. Both should be given a fare chance to select their soulmates. Eventhough you have done such mistake then both should be of positive minded and optimistic. I strongly recommend the parents not to pressuriese for marriage. what do you think?

[Five7Jaan]

I strongly recommend the parents not to pressuriese for marriage. what do you think?

I agree but not with Indian parents. They HAVE to preserve the traditions and the Indian way of marriages, I think its a do or die issue with them!



-Five7Jaan

[akhilis2cool]

Hi kajal,



What makes u think he doesnt love u?



has he made any such gesture in the last one year



May be he is too preoccupied with some thing else, and hence not able to dedicate his time to u.



Remember that for job comes before family. is he a workaholic?



if that is the case then try and discuss his office issues with him. assure him that u r his best companion on the earth (how u do that is up to u) but try and get to know his likes and dislikes,....his friends can help u out with this, and then plan ur strategy.



but above all, change ur attitude, dont take things lying down, its good to accept what life gives u what u should be able to say 'NO' when required.



hope this helps u

[akhilis2cool]

Hi kajal,



What makes u think he doesnt love u?



has he made any such gesture in the last one year



May be he is too preoccupied with some thing else, and hence not able to dedicate his time to u.



Remember that for men job comes before family on the priority list. is he a workaholic?



if that is the case then try and discuss his office issues with him. assure him that u r his best companion on the earth (how u do that is up to u) but try and get to know his likes and dislikes,....his friends can help u out with this, and then plan ur strategy.



but above all, change ur attitude, dont take things lying down, its good to accept what life gives u what u should be able to say 'NO' when required.



hope this helps u

[akhilis2cool]

Hi kajal.
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<br>the best way to reach a man is by his stomach.. prepare good dishes, make him tasty food and feed him a lot.... praise him,,, hug him often... kiss him often.... dont ask question as why he is late, who is the girl you were talkin too...
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<br>give him enough sex every day,, you take the initiatie to start the sex... suggest him to take you to a good movie with couple seats.. go for a weekend trip and be alone... dress in a very fashon manner, sing for me some songs if you can... invite his friends for a lunch... or high tea..
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<br>I am sure he would surender to you the next minute..
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<br>all the very best

sorry,

but i dont agree with u.



not every mans life starts and ends with sex, food, movies, parties. in fact very few men would like that type of a daily life.



its important to know the likes and dislikes of a person,else the above steps will do more harm than good.

[akhilis2cool]

I strongly recommend the parents not to pressuriese for marriage. what do you think?

I agree but not with Indian parents. They HAVE to preserve the traditions and the Indian way of marriages, I think its a do or die issue with them!

-Five7Jaan

its important to maintain traditions. I guess what needs to be changed is the process adopted by parents to choose brides and bridegrooms for there children.



if they know there child very well (goals in his/her life, habits, likes dislikes....) then i guess they would do a good job......but yes the final word should be from the son/daughter

[simple]

get another

[Prince]

if they know there child very well (goals in his/her life, habits, likes dislikes....) then i guess they would do a good job......but yes the final word should be from the son/daughter

akhil bacha, does any parent know the child really well, as an ADULT?

[been u r s]

hi all... i got married a year back.....it was arrange marriage...i like him a lot...but he????!!! I donn't think so....can u suggest me ways to make my husband fall in love with me.....

just keep away from him for couple of days he will be u r forever

[akhilis2cool]

if they know there child very well (goals in his/her life, habits, likes dislikes....) then i guess they would do a good job......but yes the final word should be from the son/daughter

akhil bacha, does any parent know the child really well, as an ADULT?

now that depends on the family

[ZC]

just like u make other men fall for u



or



just like other women make ur man fall for them

[sandy277]

Kajol,

try finding out what his likes and dislikes are. like if he loves a long drive, or sit and talk, or food, movies.

Also, why do u think he doesnot love you? have u ever asked him straight?

[Alexis]

Kajal, Ive had an arranged marriage too. And when you marry a stranger, it is hard to open up and become comfortable. But that wasnt the case for me! My husband and I hit it off almost immediately after marriage.



Key ingredient to a successful marriage? COMMUNICATION. Learn to understand him better and make him understand you. Dont beat about the bush, be open and direct with him in a tactful way. Make it known to him that you dont feel loved.

Perhaps you could be wrong? Maybe he does love you but isnt demonstrative because hes an introverted type of guy? Or he doesnt express it because he comes from a family where that doesnt happen.



Try to be a spontaneous and interesting women. Make him want to spend time with you. Always be dressed and made up. Youre still a newlywed if you think about it.



Dont be disheartened and stress over it. I wish you all the luck in your marriage.