Do we really need marriage?

by **devi** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 2:19 am

well said Aadi ! trust is the most imp. thing and giving and taking is another important thnig too.

by **Durga** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 2:20 am

wow ! that seems to be a good one

but it could go with a man too.

by **nlr** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 8:16 am

When a girl marries, she exchanges the attention of all men she knew for the inattention of one.

by **Vikas** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 1:19 pm

Im gonna repeat a post here from the live-in relationships section ..why? CUz it\'s so so so appropriate!

Marriage! That word by itself carries some sort of a sanctity with it ..for me anyway. Before I go any further let me make one point clear I DONT BELIEVE IN ARRANGED MARRIAGES ! They dont work 80% of the time. I\'m not saying love marriages always work ..just hear me out. I\'m of the opinion that marriage should only be considered when you know a person well enough and love a person enough to accept one\'s flaw\'s and make compromises only because you want to. To know any person to this extent, it may be necessary (not essential) that two people live together. When they do know each other mighty well they either get married or they dont. So marriage, to me is a solidification of the already existing love and devotion to another person. Arranged marriage to me doesnt make any kind of sense whatsoever. To me, its a form of mechanization of the human life like ..time to study ..time to go to bed ..time to get married ..I\'m strictly againt it ..but i\'m open to suggestion. Now issue no:2 ..Children ..they are the most wonderful people on earth and nobody should ever do anything to hurt them. People should have children ..only when they\'re absolutely sure that they can give themselves in 100% for their kids. Single parent thingie may be becoming a fad around the world and I dont exactly oppose it ..but my point is ..breaking up ..or divorce once you let these wonderful people into your life is very very heart breaking. I know some people make it work after breaking up as a single parent ..and i\'m sure they do a great job at it but it is absolutely essential that they never break communication with the other parent. A break up after having a child is the worst thing in the world. I beleive that single parenting is better than bad parenting, however its very very hard to excel at the same as we dont expect an innocent child to understand the complexities in life and sometimes by trying to explain these things we take away their childhood from them which is BAD! Summing up ..Marriage is an institution which, ideally should be preceeded by a great degree of attachment and understanding. If live-in is the way to do it ..then so be it. Living in with the wrong person and later breaking up is much better than being married to the wrong person and being \"stuck\" with them for eternity. Arranged marriages confuse me ..
Criticism/View please!
:)
Vikas
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and yeah one more thing ..its a shame how the \"society\" is so fast to blame a girl who flirts as compared to a guy who does the same. Its a shame that even in this day and age we find/invent new ways of sexual discrimination. If a something is wrong ..its wrong ..regardless of who does it. If marriage is such a joke to \"guys\" then stop getting married and just flirt for the rest of your life! they wont do that ..cuz the \"society\" expects you to get married and blah. Insulting a marriage by flirting and cheating is the lowest form of human life/existence. DONT DO IT !
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by **fun loving guy (Not a freak !!!!!)** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 2:24 pm

MARRIAGES!!! Again the monotonous topic... Lemme add a few words here... I ususally prefer to know thoroughly the one who the other is getting married to. marriage is an issue of the later scenario. If he/she does not like the other, better get rid of her/him rather than first getting married and creating a fuss. Don\'t forget the fact that we are with the world and we have to move with the world. Marriages gives a wonderful life partner... but it depends on the process of marriage (how one finds his spouse - by a love affair, an arranged one? ...or any other means...) ...have fun!

by **Rahul** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 10:26 pm

Hey Miss-Post-It-At-The-Drop-of-A-Penny !

If you are just posting it for the heck of it, or you wanna bask in the \"glory\" of getting flamed... then i am so sorry.. you lose the bet :-p

How about my five bucks (probably that\'s what it is worth!) for the bet ??????? I *do* have it me ... what about you?

Have a \"Thanda\" with those 5 bucks.. complements -- me !

by **Rahul** » Tue Mar 11, 2003 10:51 pm

It doesn\'t really happen with gals... does it? On a lighter note, even if it does, there is always the guy next door..Only if the guys could be so lucky !!!!

:-D

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