how guys think

[mysterious babe]

I always wanted a true answer to this one.If u guys have to get to know some woman who is married,staying alone independent attractive would u get to know her better just as a true freind or u would have some other intentions in ur mind. I had an arguemnt with a freind of mine and he said all guys just have the three letter word in their mind . how true is it????

[ZC]

have to restrict the discussion to a person............cannot generalize. pacha kaa`mirlu vacchina vaadiki lokam antha pacha ga kanapada thandhi anta.....wrt ur friend.

[mysterious babe]

could u please translate what u said. if it was in telugu "telugu radu" beleive me thats all i have learnt

[ZC]

its a disease...may be yellow jondus, for people suffering with that the whole warald(world) appears yellow

[mysterious babe]

ZC i was looking for an answer to my question. Tell me how u think

[ZC]

the answer is there..........i said something against ur friend and said that u cant generalize means.....What? kya sab kuch kehna zaroori hain?

[Portuguese Man-Of-War]

I always wanted a true answer to this one.If u guys have to get to know some woman who is married,staying alone independent attractive would u get to know her better just as a true freind or u would have some other intentions in ur mind. I had an arguemnt with a freind of mine and he said all guys just have the three letter word in their mind . how true is it????

I agree with ZC, MB. It depends on the person. Different men react differently. 99.9% of them would have the 'three-letter word' in mind, but the rest are different . But then, it's not that way with just married women - men think about the 'three-letter word' with any woman. So married women are not being discriminated against. Most men are equal opportunity fantasizers.



That said, there still are men who have ethics and all, and would not fantasize about married women. The one principle common to every religion is that lusting after a married woman is up there among sins. In Christianity, it's one of the commandents:"Thy shall not covet thy neighbour's wife". In Hinduism, married women are supposed to be considered equal to The Mother Goddess. Islam is, of course, super-sensitive to anything even remotely seeming like sex outside marraige.



If the lady were divorced/separated/estranged, then I don't know. Is it still unethical to think of her in 'other' ways? But you gotta cut the men some slack. After all, God created men to think about having sex .

[ZC]

Most men are equal opportunity fantasizers.

cooooooooooolllllllllllllllllllllll

[Johnny]

Well Babe of mystery, Ru married? just curious...



Well now coming to the point, hmmmm i think ur friend was true to an extent, any guy who sees a married, attractive, independent woman staying all alone wud atleast for a minute have the THOUGHT about the 3 letter word....what does he do after dat depends purely upon his SELF-CONTROL, ETHICS, and experience . Well to be frank it also depends on the woman in question to a great extent.....



The guy might start the relationship with a pure, innocent intention of good aquaintance..( who doesnt like being in the company of a yummy babe... albeit she is married... rite ). But if the woman really does get attracted to the guy and also starts thinking about the 3 letter word, then it takes a lot of courage and self control for the man to stay in his limits



i hope i answered ur Q, well got any doubts? u can ask me..

[mysterious babe]

thanks johnny

[ZC]

btw, how do a woman who is married,staying alone independent attractive think abt guys married and unmarried

[mysterious babe]

that was a good one. It all depends on what kind of relation the married woman is having with her husband. If the husband is really caring and is there for her inspite of the distance she woldnt get attracted to anyone but if she feels lonely i think it is but natural for her to get attracted to other guys.

[ZC]

that was a good one. It all depends.....................

there lies the answer to ur question. IT ALL DEPENDS...........................

[Prince]

A bit of a confession. I have moved to Hyd a few months back and family is yet to move. As P M-o-W said, we men are equal opportunity fantasisers and yes, my fantasies included married women. I thought it would be good to spend some time with a female - probably go out to a restaurant or a cinema or just to spend time chatting. I have a lot of time to kill you see.



Sex was part of the fantasy, but I suppose if there was really an opportunity, I wouldn't go ahead. I don't think that I could live with this guilt. And, I am mature enough to brush aside such thoughts and continue a platonic relationship. I would like to think that this would be the case with most men. Am I right? If push comes to shove, would you do it?



Regards

[CtrlAltDel]

Sex was part of the fantasy, but I suppose if there was really an opportunity, I wouldn't go ahead. I don't think that I could live with this guilt. And, I am mature enough to brush aside such thoughts and continue a platonic relationship. I would like to think that this would be the case with most men. Am I right? If push comes to shove, would you do it?

Prince is right...most men fantasize abt encounters with strange ladies (married, unmarried..whatever) but generally wont do anything about it.,..guilt, fear whatever the reason.



i have a friendship since 3 years with a lady here, who lives alone and is in a mid-management in a big company. i just admire n respect her for her courage n strong will and consider her a good friend. even my wife does not mind me visiting her!





woooohooooo...this is my 300th post!

[asli_badmash]

I always wanted a true answer to this one.....word in their mind . how true is it????

This is a tough one.



I think... MEN dont "DO" anything and everything that looks like a girl. Boys on the other hand are experimenting, they want to do everything and see how it feels. Know how to differentiate between Men and Boys.



MystryBabe: You might want to try finding the right people to be friends with.



Also, sex is a momemtary pleasure. You are done after the climax. Yes it feels good, yes its important, but what after that ? Sometimes it messes things up. Sex I beleive is an extension of your personal affection towards a person, bound by the rules of social structure. It has something animal about it, but when the right people get togather it can be nice.... Hmmmm.



BTW: Religion has nothing to do with personal ethics. Religion only mandates what according to the books is right to do. But time and again we see people being swept up in emotions and going against it. And I dont blame them. This is life... This is how it is. Dont you see the Pundits and the mullahs looking at women in a lusty way, if they are the keepers of the books, they among us all should be the most ethical, but they are not. So what stops us ignorant mortals from going against the books. Nothing... I think its personal morals, rules and ethics that mandate how people behave.



All said and done.. human emotions are unscripted. Anything is possible and its all subjective to people involved !



MysteryBabe: Also, sex happens between two people. It takes two to get involved. Dont put MEN on the spot, we are not sex-maniacs. You want friends... you will get friends. Its you who sets the limits and boundaries....



~badmash~

[Prince]

Our friend, naqli_badmash - I have developed respect for you, mate - wrote:

[MysteryBabe: Also, sex happens between two people. It takes two to get involved. Dont put MEN on the spot, we are not sex-maniacs. You want friends... you will get friends. Its you who sets the limits and boundaries.... ]



Spot on. If MysteryBabe would like a platonic friendship, but is scared that it would degenerate into a not-so-plationic one, she should remember that she has a hell of a lot of control on the relationship.



Oops. Sorry MB, you may not have had you in mind !!



(How does one cut-paste from a previous post into that white strip that you guys manage? And, why doesn't the subject pop up automatically when you try to reply?)

[Five7Jaan]

Prince, there is a little icon called quote in the right hand corner. Click and reply.



Nice topic MB.



-Five7Jaan

[Prince]

Prince, there is a little icon called quote in the right hand corner. Click and reply.

Thanks Jaan. How silly of me not to have noticed that!

[mysterious babe]

Hi.....

i never expected these nice replies to my question...AB i like the way u think. I wish ther were enuf guys like u to think this way. I very much agree taht it takes two to tango.....Its really nice to know that guys would value a platonic relation. but if a woman wants just freindship and some guy is just too attracted to her i dont think that freindship would last. I mean it depends on the guy.here i m not talking abt married or unmarried its just woman in general. I had heard soemone saying marreid woman r better cause they r more experienced.(mayb i hear things frm all the wrong people)



i m really amazed to know ur views.feels much better already

[asli_badmash]

Hi.....
AB i like the way u think. I wish ther were enuf guys like u to think this way.

Thanks. But listen... Not only have you put me on a pedestal (which I dont know If I can keep up with) I can no longer say what I like. All my posts will be disected, analyzed and scrutinized. I am not looking for that kind of attention... I just want to post what I think and be ignored. Like the rest... But I appreciate what you have to say. Thanks again.

if a woman wants just freindship and some guy is just too attracted to her i dont think that freindship would last. I mean it depends on the guy.here i m not talking abt married or unmarried its just woman in general.

The woman must be a damn good looking person then.. No guy makes advances towards a woman unless they somehow feel they are being led to it. Rest assured.. We all know good looking women are Jerk magnets. All my female friends who are nice looking always have a jerk their lives. I dont know how they manage to land on these people.



Basically it boils down to the equation, If you are desirable you will always have trouble making friends. This statement is good for girls and for guys.



~badmash~

[mysterious babe]

all this discussion makes me think if looks is the only thing for which we get attracted. as for me I would look at other aspects. It could b the persons sense of humour or may just something peculiar to that person . m not really sure abt the looks. mayb the persons undertanding towards life . mayb initially u could attracted by the looks but later the person needs to have some qualities to hold on. Any relation takes time to develop so after getting to know the person better we could like something abt that person

[CtrlAltDel]

all this discussion makes me think if looks is the only thing for which we get attracted. as for me I would look at other aspects. It could b the persons sense of humour or may just something peculiar to that person . m not really sure abt the looks. mayb the persons undertanding towards life . mayb initially u could attracted by the looks but later the person needs to have some qualities to hold on. Any relation takes time to develop so after getting to know the person better we could like something abt that person

the topic of this discussion is not abt general attraction but :

woman who is married,staying alone independent attractive

here, the main and most often the only criteria is looks. the rest of the good qualities come into picture only if the guy (or girl) wants to turn the relationship serious, but again, in the context of this discussion, thats not a desirable prospect.



even for serious relationships in majority of the cases, the initial attraction is solely based on looks and communication skills. later depending on other characteristics, the relationship cud proceed to the next level.

[asli_badmash]

even for serious relationships in majority of the cases, the initial attraction is solely based on looks and communication skills. later depending on other characteristics, the relationship cud proceed to the next level.

Thats right CtrlAtlDel, you made a nice point.



~badmash~

[Five7Jaan]

I know I have said that gender issue was boring me but I could not resist adding this to the forum [hope you dont mind, MB]:



HER DIARY



Sunday night - I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.



Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet to we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent.



I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing."



I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.



On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept riving.



I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love you, too."



When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.



He just sat there and watched TV.; he seemed distant and absent.



Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed.



I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.



I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep.



I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.



My life is a disaster.







HIS DIARY



Today INDIA lost the cricket match. DAMN IT!!!!!!!!!!!