premarital sex

[tifosi]

Now comeon guys sex before marriage and that too just to satisfy urself and for the pleasure of it? now thats wrong.



It is not the question of being experienced and satisfying ur partner more, it the fun of learning things with ur life partner, being together, sharing views and learning by that this gives the real pleasure and meaning to the relationship.



and for u mayavi no need to make such faces.. its ok. hahah

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Now comeon guys sex before marriage and that too just to satisfy urself and for the pleasure of it? now thats wrong.

Why do you want to have sex, if not for pleasure ? Just Reproduction?

[Anand]

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jus reproduction

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Ori Mayavi! :-}



U seem stunned by your own response (just kiddin dude ).....There are people out there whose sole idea is to pro-create.

[Ravi Shankar]

Yes MM,



Its the problem everybody facing and making them to commit for premarital sex.

Hello Everybody,

Do you know the exact problem? Actually, The Ladies will have a mind set that, Guyz will njoy Everything (i mean it) before marriage many times. Whats wrong if we do the same..( you know equal equal mentality). And guyz will think that who knows my future wife may be virgin or may not be, let us njoy before knowing her virginity. THAT IS THE PROBLEM.

Is that the problem u re facing?

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Are you talking on behalf of a whole generation?

[Fiddler]

Lots of conflicting viewpoints, lots of opinions... let me see if I can summarise the arguments we've had so far.



FOR:

1) people should have the right to share their bodies with each other if they really care for each other.

2) earlier experience teaches you how to give your partner pleasure, thereby making the emotional intimacy more intense.

3) you never know what tomorrow brings, so live for the moment.

4) society tolerates MEN doing it, so why not WOMEN? (admittedly, a slightly off-track argument)



AGAINST:

1) the woman is 'spoiled' by the act

2) the prospective husband wants his wife to be a virgin due to various ego problems

3) the voyage of discovery embarked upon together by man and wife make the intimacy more intense

4) it's a sin (that last one really cracked me up!)



Have I missed anything significant?



Now, my opinion once again: what is wrong and what is right is dictated by society and religion (both being dependent on eahch other most times) so it's understandable that a lot of people still feel that the concept of premarital sex is wrong. In my opinion, what is wrong is that an individual's freedom of choice it taken away by the constraints of society. I have no problems with someone saving themselves for their spouse by choice. However, I DO have a problem with someone being FORCED into that choice because of society. I say the individual should have to freedom to choose, and not have any one alternative forced on him/her. Statements like 'it is wrong' and 'it is a sin' are all very well, but statements like 'I would feel more intimate with my spouse if he/she were the first one with whom I shared myself' would hold FAR more water with me. Personally, I think premarital sex is far from wrong and is the ultimate expression of trust and intimacy that you feel for your partner, as long as this doesn't result in marital infidelity. Once again, it all boils down to a matter of personal choice... So what's wrong and what's right? Its your choice.

['d bin there,dun 'll that..]

tsk..tsk.. had bin there , dun 'll that, now given a chance to make a choice to choose the choices that I may make, I would certainly NOT sleep around for whatvever reasons/excuses that I may want to find.

You guys and gals wanna see for yourselves, oh,well, the world is yours. Aint worth it, though, my dear little ones.. aint' worth the dime for what it does not give.

[Fiddler]

tsk..tsk.. had bin there , dun 'll that, now given a chance to make a choice to choose the choices that I may make, I would certainly NOT sleep around for whatvever reasons/excuses that I may want to find.
You guys and gals wanna see for yourselves, oh,well, the world is yours. Aint worth it, though, my dear little ones.. aint' worth the dime for what it does not give.

That's what I'm talkin' about, old-timer. The operative word here is 'choice', the freedom to make one's own decision. I 'aint saying it's worth it. I'm just saying that people ought to be able to see for themselves.