I am getting married and am nervous now

by **peeping tom** » Mon Jan 20, 2003 8:16 pm

I am getting married on feb2003. I am nervous on so many issues. all advise please

by **vivek of themavericks** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 12:13 am

The point is, if you are not nervous, there is something wrong with you. So chill out.

by **anita** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 1:37 am

hearty congratulations tom.yep, a little bit nervousness is expected.if u know the girl very well then its fine.stop worrying and plan for a good honeymoon trip and things to do and see after marriage.everything is going to be fine.Allow a considerable amount of FREEDOM in the other person\'s life and you both can have a peaceful life.respect for the other person\'s interests, opinions, theories, ideas is a must.Dont let parents and relatives opinions and impressions influence yours.Most of the fightings happen on this issue.Nobody comes between you both.Thats all I can tell you.Best of luck.

by **hyderabadi** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 1:40 am

Hey tom, congrats man.one suggestion from my side,dont lose your individuality.

by **NEERAJ** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 11:52 am

Dear Tom,

Congrats BUddy, why nervous man. you are going to get a partner who is going to live for you and take care of you completely .... every relationship has its limits,father/mother, brother/sister, but husband and wife relationship has not boundries and unconditional love is poured mutually.

so why worry and get tensed or scared. cool and start your new life and enjoy man.As wedding is union of two hearts ok buddy.

So no more peeping I guess, you will only be a tom.

Well will miss your peeping buddy!!!!! hahah

by **Khatta** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 2:41 pm

Hey tom, congrats buddy from my side too. So, one of our friend is getting married too. I pray to god \"long live your marriage\" & Enjoy To The Fullest.

by **vivek of themavericks** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 6:34 pm

Man you don\'t pray \" long live marriage!!\", whats that about??. Anyway, i am sure you meant the best version.

by **Khatta** » Tue Jan 21, 2003 7:35 pm

I mean Long Live Your Marriage Life :-)

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by RP » Tue Jan 21, 2003 10:55 pm

PT, Anita summed it up well. That is why, you always should get an \'opinion\' of a woman - the first one. The second should be yours. But never become a hen-pecked husband. Let her have freedom or else you will not have your\'s.

by **vivek of themavericks** » Wed Jan 22, 2003 12:02 am

Thats what buddy, why wishing long life for anyones marriage !. Its understood as long as its Indians who are getting married. Else we would wish, \" I wish this is the best marriage you have in your life\". Or \" many many happy returns of the day\"

by **peeping tom** » Wed Jan 22, 2003 11:03 am

Neeraj thank you so much, here is the sub story about the peeping tom. please dont mistake me.....In an age when we can speak of peeping Tom cameras or electronic peeping Toms we have indeed come far from the time of the legendary peeping Tom. Godgifu (fl. 1040-1080), Lady Godiva to us, pledged her legendary ride as a means of persuading her husband, Leofric, Earl of Mercia, to lower taxes. In the original version of the story she was observed by all the townspeople as she disrobed, but in a much later version of the story a tailor or butcher named Tom was the only person to observe her as she rode by, everyone else having shuttered their windows as they had been asked. Peeping Tom, first recorded around 1796, has become a term for a voyeur, not at all a pleasant fate for this legendary fellow.
PLEASE NEERAJ DONT MISTAKE ME. but see in this great story, there was no mention in what circumstances Tom saw the noble lady without cover. was it his fault???who knows...

by **Shahed** » Wed Jan 22, 2003 12:41 pm

Wooooove: I think I should keep all these valuable comments and keep with me..Because very soon I am also gonna face the same situation. Peeping Tom It will be good for me if you comment on your married life after one month or after Honeymoon...Best of Luck..this is what I can say now..

by **peeping tom** » Sat Apr 12, 2003 9:52 pm

This is message for Shahed. My marriage is now about 2 months old. Married life is going normally. What Anita said is correct. Couples should both respect each other\'s feelings. Don\'t suspect your spouse for small things. Suspicions will simply destroy life. Mutual understanding is important. Don\'t spend money too much in first 3 months. We don\'t know the speed at which we spend our money in first 2 months. After that, by the time we sit and calculate, depression will be there. Spend money carefully. At the same time don\'t allow anybody to poke their noses too much unnecessarily. Cut them as quick as possible. All the best Shahed. Please convey your marriage date. If it is in Hyderabad, I will come and have the biryani. Bye!

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